Theme: God created marriage
Scriptures: Genesis 2:18-24, Genesis 3:1-18, and Ephesians 5:22-23
Objectives: (From the D6 Fusion Sunday School Lesson book)
Know: God created marriage, and intends for a husband and wife to experience oneness through that relationship.
Think: My goal is to experience oneness with God and with my spouse.
Do: Recognize and follow biblical guidelines for marriage.
Notes and questions:
B1 What is marriage?
B2 Genesis 2:18-24,
C1 The word for man in Genesis 2:18 is אָדָם 'adam. It is a masculine noun.
C2 The word for help is עֵזֶר `ezer.
D1 It means help or assistance.
D2 It is usually used in a military sense as Deuteronomy 33:7 NKJV And this he said of Judah: “Hear, LORD, the voice of Judah, And bring him to his people; Let his hands be sufficient for him, And may You be a help against his enemies.”
D3 It is also used for someone helping as Psalms 33:20 NKJV Our soul waits for the LORD; He is our help and our shield.
D4 Also, Psalms 121:1-2 NKJV I Will lift up my eyes to the hills– From whence comes my help? My help comes from the LORD, Who made heaven and earth.
D5 What kind of help, assistance, did the Psalmist need?
D6 What kind of help, assistance, would Adam need?
D7 Was Adam lacking something?
D8 Was the help Adam needed just an assistant, a slave, to do his bidding?
D9 Was the help Adam needed was a partner to face life together?
C3 All livestock, birds, and all other animals were named by Adam, but there was not one that could be his helper. Why did not these meet Adam’s need?
C4 In Genesis 2:24 how many types of marriage meet God’s standard?
C5 The principle of one flesh
D1 One in body, soul, and spirit. One physically, emotionally, intellectually, in worship, in prayer, in troubles, in joys, whatever. Oneness in purpose. It is facing life together as a team.
D2 Other verses with oneness in the same sense
E1 John 10:16 NKJV “And other sheep I have which are not of this fold; them also I must bring, and they will hear My voice; and there will be one flock and one shepherd.
E2 John 17:11 NKJV Now I am no longer in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to You. Holy Father, keep through Your name those whom You have given Me, that they may be one as We are.
E3 Ephesians 4:4-6 NKJV There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.
D3 If there is fighting, how can there be oneness?
D4 How can oneness be promoted, encouraged, assisted?
D5 How can husband and wife promote this in their marriage?
D6 How can the church help?
B3 Genesis 3:1-18,
C1 Eve was deceived. Does this mean that men are not deceived or less deceived?
C2 Adam sinned with purpose and knowledge. What was the result? (Romans 5:12 NKJV Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned).
C3 What happened to their oneness after they both sinned?
C4 What happened to their oneness with God?
C5 What does being reconciled with God mean?
D1 Romans 5:10 NKJV For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.
D2 2 Corinthians 5:18 NKJV Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation.
C6 Genesis 3:7 NKJV Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings.
D1 What were the eyes closed to before they sinned?
D2 Why did nakedness bother them now?
D3 How did sin affect their oneness and their marriage?
D4 How does sin affect us?
C7 Genesis 3:8 NKJV And they heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden.
D1 Why did they hide?
D2 What did God want?
C8 Genesis 3:12 NKJV Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.”
D1 Is Adam helping the oneness of his marriage?
D2 Why wasn’t he honest?
C3 Who is really being blamed for the sin?
C9 Genesis 3:13 NKJV And the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
D1 At least Eve tells the truth.
D2 Why is confessing to God good?
C10 Genesis 3:14-15, is there anything good in God’s curse?
C11 Genesis 3:16
E1 NKJV To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”
E2 ESV To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.”
E3 NLT Then he said to the woman, “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband,but he will rule over you.
E4 GNB And he said to the woman, "I will increase your trouble in pregnancy and your pain in giving birth. In spite of this, you will still have desire for your husband, yet you will be subject to him.
D2 Susan Foh in 1974 wrote an article on the meaning of Genesis 3:16, “What is the Woman’s Desire?” An seasoned Christian response to this can be found: THE DESIRE OF THE WOMAN: A RESPONSE TO SUSAN FOH’S INTERPRETATION
D3 The most common view is that Eve now had the desire to rule, boss, her husband. Knowing this, God cursed Eve and commanded her to submit to her husband in all things.
D4 This is wrong because:
E1 The word desire is תְּשׁוּקָה tshuwqa. This word means longing and desire. So, what kind of desire? It depends on the context.
E2 It is used 3 times in the Old Testament:
F1 Genesis 3:16 (our passage)
F2 Genesis 4:7 NKJV “If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”
F3 Song of Solomon 7:10 NKJV I am my beloved’s, And his desire is toward me.
E3 Genesis 4:7 Understanding it in context: Sins longs for, desires, lusts, for you to sin. This is mainly a spiritual longing, sin wants him to sin: James 1:14-15 NKJV But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death. The Greek word for desire is ἐπιθυμία epithumia, which means a longing for.
E4 Song of Solomon 7:10 Understanding it in context: The wife notes her husband’s desire for her. This is mainly a physical longing.
E5 So in Genesis 3:16, I believe is best understood as (to paraphrase) “I can see you are very angry. He has blamed you and me for his rebellion, and you would like to wring his neck. What is better is for you to still desire him (physically), and even though he made an evil decision, he still is your husband.” The he shall rule means that he is to have the last word in a decision. It does NOT mean his way or no way, for that is hate instead of love and will never have another answer to prayer: 1 Peter 3:7 GNB In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God's gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
D5 Egalitarian or complementarian? This is my personal view
F1 In nursing for over 40 years, my immediate manager was always a woman. I had a few male supervisors in charge after the manager went home and a few CEO’s as well.
F2 President can be a woman.
F3 Seminary class teacher can be a woman.
F4 Deaconesses are necessary.
F5 CEO of large corporations can be a woman.
F6 So in all areas of living, a woman is often the best.
F1 In marriage, the range is from patriarchy to matriarchy.
G1 The strong patriarchy is the wife has little or no input.
G2 The strong matriarchy is where the husband has little or no input.
G3 The strong versions usually are dominated by either a narcissist or psychopath.
F2 Both are not good.
F3 I hold to a 51-49% husband/wife.
F4 We are partners, teammates, going through life together. A problem arises, we discuss it, and arrive at a solution. This solution is not just the husband’s or the wife’s. It is together in agreement. Sometimes the solution is not easy and will differ greatly. Then the wife should yield to her husband. If that solution works out—fine. If it does not, the husband must yield to the wife’s solution.
B4 Ephesians 5:22-23,
C1 Reviewing Ephesians 5:21 WEL Place yourselves under one another in the fear of God.
Other versions use submit, etc. The Greek word ὑποτάσσω hupotasso means to place under. Blue Letter Bible has this comment under the heading Outline of Biblical Usage: This word was a Greek military term meaning "to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader". In non-military use, it was "a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden." There is no idea of resistance as submit, subject, submission has in English.
C2 Ephesians 5:22-23 WEL 22 Wives place yourselves under your own husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the congregation, and Himself is savior of the body.
C3 What does your own husband imply?
C4 How is Jesus the Messiah head of the church (Congregation)?
C5 What is the body in Ephesians 5:23?
B5 Other questions:
D1 What is oneness with God?
D2 What is oneness with our spouse?
D3 How is oneness with God broken?
D4 How is oneness with our spouse broken?
D5 How can oneness be restored with God?
D6 How can oneness be restored with our spouse?
D7 Can an atheist have oneness with his/her spouse?
D8 How did Adam’s sin change oneness with God?
D9 How did Adam’s sin change oneness with Eve?
C2 What style of leadership does God use—shepherd or hunter?
E1 Psalms 23:1-6 NKJV The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the LORD Forever.
E2 John 10:27 NKJV My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. No whip is required—Elon J. Gane.
E1 Genesis 10:8-9 ISV Cush fathered Nimrod, who became the first fearless leader throughout the land. He became a fearless hunter in defiance of the Lord. That is why it is said, “Like Nimrod, a fearless hunter in defiance of the Lord.
E2 Matthew 20:25 GNB92 So Jesus called them all together and said, “You know that the rulers of the heathen have power over them, and the leaders have complete authority.
C3 If husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, how are we to show this?
C4 How are wives to show respect for their husbands?
C5 Can our marriage be a witness to nonbelievers?
B6 Next week:
C1 When families are not perfect
C2 Theme: Biblical families
D1 Genesis 17:9
D2 Genesis 17:15-19
D3 Esther 2:5-7
D4 Acts 16:1
D5 2 Timothy 1:5
D6 Titus 1:4