Are You Feeling Loved?
A1 Most people want love, feel loved, and give love to others. Yet, do we love? Do we love our spouse? Do they know that? Do they feel loved? Do you love your children? Do they feel loved? Do you love your parents, your brothers, your sisters, your fellow Christian?
A2 Most people do not feel loved
B1 Loneliness is a growing problem.
B2 In the 2018 Cigna USA Loneliness Survey,
C1 Nearly half of Americans report sometimes or always feeling alone (46 percent) or left out (47 percent).
C2 One in four Americans (27 percent) rarely or never feel as though there are people who really understand them.
C3 Two in five Americans sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not meaningful (43 percent) and that they are isolated from others (43 percent).
C4 One in five people report they rarely or never feel close to people (20 percent) or feel like there are people they can talk to (18 percent).
C5 Americans who live with others are less likely to be lonely (average loneliness score of 43.5) compared to those who live alone (46.4). However, this does not apply to single parents/guardians (average loneliness score of 48.2) – even though they live with children, they are more likely to be lonely.
C6 Only around half of Americans (53 percent) have meaningful in-person social interactions, such as having an extended conversation with a friend or spending quality time with family, on a daily basis.
C7 Generation Z (adults ages 18-22) is the loneliest generation and claims to be in worse health than older generations.
B3 The Bible addresses this, too.
C1 Matthew 24:12 GNB Such will be the spread of evil that many people's love will grow cold.
C2 Romans 12:9 WEB Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil. Cling to that which is good.
C3 1 John 3:18 WEB My little children, let’s not love in word only, neither with the tongue only, but in deed and truth.
A3 What is love?
B1 It is a choice. It is a choosing that I will treat someone special.
C1 Some choose to make the choice to love money and wealth: Luke 16:13 WEL "No household servant can serve two masters, for he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and Mammon." Even though love of money is A root of evil: 1 Timothy 6:9-10 WEL Those who determine to be rich fall into temptation, a trap, and into many foolish and harmful cravings, which drown men in destruction and eternal ruin. 10 For the love of money is a root of all evil, which some, longing for, strayed from the faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows.
C2 Some choose to love power: 3 John 1:9 WEB I wrote to the assembly, but Diotrephes, who loves to be first among them, doesn’t accept what we say.
C3 Some choose to love this world, its pleasures, its lusts: 1 John 2:15-17 WEB Don’t love the world, neither the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the Father’s love isn’t in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, isn’t the Father’s, but is the world’s. The world is passing away with its lusts, but he who does God’s will remains forever.
C4 Some choose to supremely love themself: 1 Timothy 3:2-5 WEL For people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, braggers, arrogant, users of abusive language, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural affection, impossible to please, false accusers, unable to control themselves, fierce, despising those who are good, 4 Traitors, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 Having an appearance of godliness but having spurned its power.
C5 What we are to love: Luke 10:27-28 GNB92 The man answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind’; and ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.’” “You are right,” Jesus replied; “do this and you will live.”
B2 Love’s actions are listed in the Bible. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a WEL Love is very patient and kind; love is not envious; love doesn't brag about itself, is not haughty, 5 Doesn't behave improperly, is not self-seeking; love isn't easily aggravated, doesn’t keep a list of wrongs, 6 Doesn't rejoice in injustice, but rejoices with the truth, 7 Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends.
B3 We choose to do these things.
B4 Choices have consequences: Proverbs 1:26-29 GW I will laugh at your calamity. I will make fun of you when panic strikes you, 27 when panic strikes you like a violent storm, when calamity strikes you like a windstorm, when trouble and anguish come to you. 28 "They will call to me at that time, but I will not answer. They will look for me, but they will not find me, 29 because they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the LORD.
A4 4 Greek words for love
B1 ἀγαπάω agapaō which refers to love is a choice. It is the deepest love. This is the love we are talking about today.
C1 John 3:16 NKJV For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
C2 Matthew 5:43-44 NRSV You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' (44) But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
C3 2 Timothy 4:10 NRSV For Demas, in love with this present world, has deserted me and gone to Thessalonica; Crescens has gone to Galatia, Titus to Dalmatia.
B2 φιλέω phileō which refers to brotherly love, that is, the love of friends. It is a personal attachment to something (Strong’s Lexicon) and affection. Thus, it is possible to love your spouse as agapaō and phileō.
C1 John 5:20 NRSV The Father loves the Son and shows him all that he himself is doing; and he will show him greater works than these, so that you will be astonished.
C2 John 12:25 NRSV Those who love their life lose it, and those who hate their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
C3 1 Corinthians 16:22 NRSV Let anyone be accursed who has no love for the Lord. Our Lord, come!
B3 ἔρως érōs is sexual, passionate, physical love, even infatuation. This word is not in the Bible.
B4 στέργω stergo which is to cherish. It is used in the negative use 2 times in the New Testament (ἄστοργος astorgos).
C1 Romans 1:31 NKJV Undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful. Another translation: Romans 1:31 GW Don't have any sense, don't keep promises, and don't show love to their own families or mercy to others.
C2 2 Timothy 3:3 NKJV Unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good. Another translation: 2 Timothy 3:3 GW And lack normal affection for their families. They will refuse to make peace with anyone. They will be slanderous, lack self-control, be brutal, and have no love for what is good.
A5 Some pointers, think about it.
B1 Turn media off, put the phone down, take the earbuds out.
B2 Turn your eyes, ears, and attention to your spouse. Her opinion is most likely better than yours.
B3 Your wife does NOT need a strong hand to lead her. Just. Stop. That. Kind. Of Thinking.
B4 Listen to her. This is not just looking at her and making mocking expressions pretending to listen. LISTEN!
B5 When you ask a question, wait for an answer. WAIT! In a study with teachers it was found that those who wait at least 3 seconds for an answer improved students attitude. (Source)
B6 There IS A DIFFERENCE between talking TO and talking WITH your child, your spouse, your parent, your brother, your sister, your neighbor.
B7 If you see something that needs to be done, do it. If you see your wife busy and the dishes need washing, wash, dry, and put them away.
B8 Your wife drinks coffee in the morning? Get her cup out for her.
B9 SHOW compassion!
B10 If you are a boss, a manager, a supervisor, do the same for your employees.
B11 If you are an employee, do the same, do the same for your boss.
B12 You can be kind and SHOW you love your wife.
B13 Show love every possible time to glorify God.
B14 As much as possible live in peace with all people.
B15 You will fail at times, but God gives grace.
B16 Memorize 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a and practice doing these things every single day in public and private.
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