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20 September 2018

What Is Christian Marriage?

A1 Briefly
B1 A union of a male and a female in body, soul, and marriage.
B2 A union until death in this life.
B3 A union that can be broken.
B4 A union that must be broken.
C1 Abuse
C2 Desertion
C3 For my understanding on this see “Conditions for Divorce and Remarriage” by Lenos.
A2 Beginning of marriage
B1 Adam
C1 Created in the image of God
C2 Did NOT have all wisdom, gifts, abilities, insights, etc. necessary for taking care of the Garden of Eden.
C3 All creation was judged by God, the creator, to be good. The only “not good” was Adam being alone.
C4 God wanted Adam to understand that he, Adam, could not be a full success in life without help. Adam needed God’s grace and wisdom and also another human.
C5 Genesis 1:31 NKJV Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good. So the evening and the morning were the sixth day.
C6 Genesis 2:18 GNB Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable companion to help him."
C7 The world was cursed because of Adam’s sin, not Eve’s sin.
D1 Genesis 3:17-19
E1 Version 1: Genesis 3:17-19 NKJV Then to Adam He said, "Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, 'You shall not eat of it': "Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life. 18 Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, And you shall eat the herb of the field. 19 In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread Till you return to the ground, For out of it you were taken; For dust you are, And to dust you shall return."
E2 Version 2: Genesis 3:17-19 GW Then he said to the man, "You listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree, although I commanded you, 'You must never eat its fruit.' The ground is cursed because of you. Through hard work you will eat food that comes from it every day of your life. 18 The ground will grow thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat wild plants. 19 By the sweat of your brow, you will produce food to eat until you return to the ground, because you were taken from it. You are dust, and you will return to dust."
D2 1 Corinthians 15:21-22 NKJV For since by man [came] death, by Man also [came] the resurrection of the dead. For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ all shall be made alive.
D3 Romans 5:14 HCSB Nevertheless, death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those who did not sin in the likeness of Adam’s transgression. He is a prototype of the Coming One.
D4 Romans 5:12-14 LEB Because of this, just as sin entered into the world through one man, and death through sin, so also death spread to all people because all sinned. For until the law, sin was in the world, but sin is not charged to one’s account [when there] is no law. But death reigned from Adam until Moses even over those who did not sin in the likeness of the transgression of Adam, who is a type of the one who is to come.
B2 Eve
C1 Because Adam did NOT have all the wisdom, gifts, abilities, insights, etc. that was necessary, God make a helper, a partner, for him.
D1 The word helper is usually used of God, thus it does NOT mean a servant, slave, or lesser. On the Word Help
E1 The word help or help meet in Genesis 2:18 is Strong's H5828 - `ezer
E2 It means aid, help; often concr. a helper, aider, Ps. 33:20; 70:6; 115:9; a female helper, Gen. 2:18,20. (Gesenius’ Hebrew-Caldee Lexicon).
E3 The Hebrew word is used 21 times in 15 verses. Of these, ezer is used of God being the helper in 11 verses.
E4 God is a helper and is not a slave or servant, so is true of Eve.
E5 Eve had gifts, abilities, and insights from God that Adam did NOT have and Adam needed to do God’s work.
D2 Without Eve, Adam was either unable to or only could do an imperfect work for God.
C2 Eve was NOT given to
D1 Make Adam happy. Eve was created because Adam could not carry out his responsibilities completely.
D2 Have sex.
D3 Be a slave, that is, obey everything without question.
D4 Cater to carry out every whim and desire of Adam.
D5 Have someone to instruct her in every little area of life, that is, Adam had to have someone so he could exercise the strong hand of leadership of guidance, because she is too stupid without him.
C3 Situations would arise that needed a solution. Adam did NOT have all the necessary wisdom to make a full decision. So, God created Eve to give another view and insight into a situation. This is the reason God state, “It is not good for the man to live alone.”
C4 She may have been the first human sinner, but she was deceived.
D1 Women are not more easily deceived than men.
D2 Women are not cursed because Eve sinned. Sin had consequences—death and corruption. Part of that corruption was to suffer pain in childbirth. Death was spiritual, of the soul, and physical. There are 2 deaths—physical and eternal.
E1 Physical death: Romans 5:12 NRSV Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death came through sin, and so death spread to all because all have sinned—
E2 Eternal death: Revelation 21:8 WEL “But the cowardly, unbelieving, loathsome, murderers, fornicators, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars will have their share in the lake which burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death."
E3 Spiritual death is death of fellowship with God. Humans NEED fellowship with God. Sin separates humans from God and fellowship with Him. Isaiah 59:1-2 NKJV Behold, the LORD's hand is not shortened, That it cannot save; Nor His ear heavy, That it cannot hear. 2 But your iniquities have separated you from your God; And your sins have hidden His face from you, So that He will not hear.
D3 Eve did not attempt to boss Adam.
E1 A common interpretation of Genesis 3:16 is that Eve wanted to control Adam. Because of this God cursed Eve. Her problem according to these teachers is that desire means desire to control. She wants to control, because she is a sinner. (Compare)
E2 This is wrong.
F1 The word desire is the Hebrew word תְּשׁוּקָה tshuwqah. It means longing. It is used in 3 verses: Genesis 3:16, Genesis 4:7, and Song of Solomon 7:10.
F2 Because the word is used with Cain (Genesis 4:7), some teachers associate the word with control. (Compare)
F3 The word has nothing to do with control. It is desire and longing.
G1 Song of Solomon 7:10 is physical longing of husband and wife.
G2 Genesis 4:7 is sin’s desire and longing for Cain to murder Abel.
G3 Genesis 3:16 is God reminding Eve to still desire and long for her husband. It is not stated, but my opinion is that Eve was very angry when she understood what Adam had done and wanted nothing to do with him. She hated him. God wanted to remind Eve that it is God’s will for Eve to still desire and long for Adam.
F4 Compare
E3 The word rule is misunderstood.
F1 There are basically 2 types of leadership—Hunter (domineering and controlling) and Shepherd (delegating and caring). See Leadership Styles
F2 The archetype of Hunter leadership is Nimrod, but the archetype of Shepherd is the Lord Jesus.
F3 It is ruling by love, not control.
C5 Had different gifts, abilities, and insights than Adam.
C6 Was a partner, not a servant, of Adam.
B3 To be one
C1 In fellowship with each other and God.
C2 To collaborate in solving problems.
C3 To unite in body, soul, and spirit.
D1 Bonding in sex. There are emotional and hormonal bonding qualities. See this for a Christian blogger on this topic.
D2 Bonding in soul. This would include emotions, strength, comfort, encouragement, advice, etc. Remember, it is not only man who has all the gifts, abilities, insights, a woman is given to offer what is missing. Any decision a family faces is better off with both sets of gifts and abilities being exercised.
D3 Bonding in spirit. This is in worshiping God together. A woman does NOT need a man to serve as priest. She is also a priest and can approach God. Both men and women believers: 1 Peter 2:4-5 WEL You are coming to the Lord [as to] a living stone, truly rejected by people but chosen by God [and] precious. 5 You also, as living stones, are built into a spiritual house, a holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices that are acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.
C4 Matthew 19:6 MKJV Therefore they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate.
C5 To be one, husband and wife need time together, conversing together, and worshiping together.
A3 Love
B1 God’s love is agape love. It is the love of choice, not necessarily emotional or passionate. John 3:16 NKJV For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
B2 It is the love of choosing to love. It is the love of choice.
C1 Not much emotional or passionate love when loving enemies, yet we are required to do so. Matthew 5:44 WPNT But I say to you: love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you,
C2 Humans do not naturally love evil. When they do, it is a choice: John 3:19 WPNT “Now this is the [basis for] the condemning, that the Light has come into the world, but the people loved the darkness rather than the light because their deeds were malignant.
C3 A choice: 1 John 2:15 WPNT Do not love the world, neither the things in the world; if anyone loves the world, the Father’s love isn’t in him.
C4 No one chooses to die in persecution, but we can choose to love God first: Revelation 12:11 EMTV And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death.
B3 The actions of love
C1 Are seen in thoughts, desires, words, and deeds: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a WEL 4 Love is very patient and kind; love is not envious; love doesn't brag about itself, is not haughty, 5 Doesn't behave improperly, is not self-seeking; love isn't easily aggravated, doesn’t keep a list of wrongs, 6 Doesn't rejoice in injustice, but rejoices with the truth, 7 Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends,
C2 These are then seen in obedience to God’s rules for Christians written in the New Testament. John 14:15 GNB "If you love me, you will obey my commandments.
C3 So we are to love our spouse, our family, and our Christian brothers and sisters.
D1 Ephesians 5:25 GNB Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.
D2 Titus 2:4 WEB that they may train the young wives to love their husbands, to love their children.
E1 Love husbands is the Greek word: φίλανδρος philandros
E2 Love children is the Greek word: φιλότεκνος philoteknos
D3 1 Thessalonians 4:9-10 WEB But concerning brotherly love, you have no need that one write to you. For you yourselves are taught by God to love one another, 10 for indeed you do it toward all the brothers who are in all Macedonia. But we exhort you, brothers, that you abound more and more.
E1 Brotherly love is the Greek word: φιλαδελφία philadelphia
E2 The second word love is the Greek word: ἀγαπάω agapaō
C4 Therefore, any abuse, be it verbal, sexual, spiritual, financial, physical, etc., is NOT love.
C5 Abuse is ALWAYS wrong. If you are abused, for any reason,
D1 Call the Domestic Violence Hot Line—1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
D2 Divorce
D3 Seek professional counsel for emotional support. Yes, you do need it.
D4 Tell your pastor last, because most pastors will revictimize you or abuse you spiritually. Avoid pastors who teach women need the strong hand of leadership and such.
D5 Further help: A Cry For Justice
B4 Making decisions based on love
C1 Scenario:
D1 Problems and other decisions are discussed. I realize that sometimes the other is not available or the timing is immediate. In those situations, a decision will be made unilaterally, and not berated by the other spouse.
D2 The decision is lovingly discussed. There are no raised voices. This is not a contest of wills but loving discussion looking at all the options. The husband has some gifts and will offer his perspective. Since the husband does not have all the gifts, he must look to his wife for her input based on her gifts and abilities.
D3 They discuss and discuss even more. If a mutual decision is reached, then it is followed.
D4 If it is not reached, then seek godly counsel.
D5 If there is still no agreement, then, in my opinion, the wife defers to the husband. BUT, if that decision proves to not solve the issue, then the husband defers to the wife.
B5 Investment
C1 Definition There are a number of definitions, but we will offer two.
D1 6. a devoting, using, or giving of time, talent, emotional energy, etc., as to achieve something.
D2 8. the act of investing with a quality, attribute, etc.
D3 Source: Random House Kernerman Webster's College Dictionary, © 2010 K Dictionaries Ltd. Copyright 2005, 1997, 1991 by Random House, Inc. All rights reserved.
C2 We invest in our spouse. So, what do we invest?
D1 Time
D2 A listening ear
D3 Patience
D4 Kindness
D5 Helpfulness
D6 Prayer
D7 Family devotions
D8 All the qualities of love (2 Corinthians 13:4-8a)
A4 Other notes
B1 God created only two genders—male and female. They are biologically provable. It is not an attitude or choice. It is reality.
B2 Compatibility is a very wise choice.
C1 Spiritual (Some examples, not inclusive)
D1 Same belief and faith in Jesus Christ
D2 Same Gospel
D3 As close as possible, same doctrine
D4 Same commitment
D5 Same devotion
D6 Same daily fellowship, prayer, and Bible study
C2 Soul (emotions, personality, likes, dislikes, etc.) (Some examples, not inclusive)
D1 Introvert vs Extrovert
D2 City or rural
D3 Clean or messy
C3 Physical (Some examples, not inclusive)
D1 Similar tastes in clothes, food, etc.
D2 Enjoy each other’s looks
D3 Outdoors or indoors
D4 Exercise
D5 Diet
A5 Links (I don’t necessary endorse the web site or blog).
B3 If you have these character traits, repent and believe the Gospel.

Copyright © 2018 by Len Gane All rights reserved.

09 September 2018

1 Peter 3:1-7 and Submission

1 Peter 3:1-7 is often cited by those who wish to control wives. These are those men and pastors who feel a woman needs the strong hand of a man to guide her.

In reality, those types tend to be abusive. Abusive people are evil. There is no love, if there is any abuse.

A careful study of the passage in the plain, normal sense and understanding English language will NOT interpret this passage to dominate women.

The plain sense of Scripture in 1 Peter 3:1-7 shows
  • The situation of a Christian wife and non-Christian husband. The situation can be either husband or wife. It refers to one spouse being a Christian and the other is not.
  • The nonbeliever will not obey God’s command to repent and believe the Gospel.
  • The Christian can then, live the Gospel, by living the Christian life required by Messiah Jesus for both men and women, instead of pleading, perhaps nagging the unbeliever.
  • Hopefully, the non-Christian will see the superiority of the Christian life, repent, and believe the Gospel.
  • The Apostle reminds the Christian, whether wife or husband, to speak respectfully.
  • Be respectful and give honor to each other.
  • The Christian (this especially refers to the husband) will not have God answer his prayers, if he treats his wife with any hint of abuse.

In summary:
  • A controlling spouse cannot lawfully use this Scripture passage to force the other.
  • Word meanings in English have changed. Care must be taken to understand its use.
  • God is supreme. He is omniscient and omnisapient. His will and lifestyle is the best.
  • We must be of the mindset to do God’s will. To know God’s will, we must study the Bible and pray for wisdom.
  • Love your spouse as I have written in other articles about love.

A better translation understanding that the Greek word implies no defiance or resistance: 1 Peter 3:1-7 God’s Word Wives, in a similar way, place yourselves under your husbands' authority. Some husbands may not obey God's word. Their wives could win these men for Christ by the way they live without saying anything. 2 Their husbands would see how pure and reverent their lives are. 3 Wives must not let their beauty be something external. Beauty doesn't come from hairstyles, gold jewelry, or clothes. 4 Rather, beauty is something internal that can't be destroyed. Beauty expresses itself in a gentle and quiet attitude which God considers precious. 5 After all, this is how holy women who had confidence in God expressed their beauty in the past. They placed themselves under their husbands' authority 6 as Sarah did. Sarah obeyed Abraham and spoke to him respectfully. You became Sarah's daughters by not letting anything make you afraid to do good. 7 Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding since they are weaker than you are. Honor your wives as those who share God's life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.

07 April 2018

Conditions for Divorce

My Understanding of Scriptural Reasons for Allowing Divorce

God's standard is marriage until one spouse dies. God's standard is never to steal, never to lie, never to covet, never to blaspheme, but we all know it happens. Sometimes marriages are wrong. Hence, my thoughts.

Conditions for Divorce

Len Gane


B1 God’s will
C1 Verses
D1 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24, NKJV)
D2 “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:6, NKJV)
C1 Some may not want marriage
C2 Some may want but won’t be married
D1 No one available
D2 Eunuchs for the kingdom, or by force (as from a King)
E1 But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only [those] to whom it has been given: “For there are eunuchs who were born thus from [their] mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept [it,] let him accept [it.”] (Matthew 19:11-12, NKJV)
E2 Jesus answered, “This teaching does not apply to everyone, but only to those to whom God has given it. For there are different reasons why men cannot marry: some, because they were born that way; others, because men made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Let him who can accept this teaching do so.” (Matthew 19:11-12, GNB92)
D3 No one asked
B2 God blesses
C1 And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." (Genesis 2:18, NKJV)
C2 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4, NKJV).
C3 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? (Proverbs 5:18-20, NKJV).
C4 Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 9:9, NKJV)
C5 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 9:4-8a, NKJV)
C6 And many other verses


B1 Not God’s will: This is another thing you do. You drown the LORD's altar with tears, weeping and wailing because he no longer accepts the offerings you bring him. You ask why he no longer accepts them. It is because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to her. Didn't God make you one body and spirit with her? What was his purpose in this? It was that you should have children who are truly God's people. So make sure that none of you breaks his promise to his wife. “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.” (Malachi 2:13-16, GNB92)
B2 By permission
C1 Sexual sins
D1 Incest: The LORD gave the following regulations. Do not have sexual intercourse with any of your relatives. Do not disgrace your father by having intercourse with your mother. You must not disgrace your own mother. Do not disgrace your father by having intercourse with any of his other wives. Do not have intercourse with your sister or your stepsister, whether or not she was brought up in the same house with you. Do not have intercourse with your granddaughter; that would be a disgrace to you. Do not have intercourse with a half sister; she, too, is your sister. Do not have intercourse with an aunt, whether she is your father's sister or your mother's sister. --- Do not have intercourse with your uncle's wife; she, too, is your aunt. Do not have intercourse with your daughter-in-law or with your brother's wife. Do not have intercourse with the daughter or granddaughter of a woman with whom you have had intercourse; they may be related to you, and that would be incest. Do not take your wife's sister as one of your wives, as long as your wife is living. (Leviticus 18:6-18, GNB92)
D2 Adultery
E1 Verses
F1 When Jesus finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went to the territory of Judea on the other side of the Jordan River. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him and tried to trap him by asking, “Does our Law allow a man to divorce his wife for whatever reason he wishes?” Jesus answered, “Haven't you read the scripture that says that in the beginning the Creator made people male and female? And God said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one.’ So they are no longer two, but one. No human being must separate, then, what God has joined together.” The Pharisees asked him, “Why, then, did Moses give the law for a man to hand his wife a divorce notice and send her away?” Jesus answered, “Moses gave you permission to divorce your wives because you are so hard to teach. But it was not like that at the time of creation. I tell you, then, that any man who divorces his wife for any cause other than her unfaithfulness, commits adultery if he marries some other woman.” (Matthew 19:1-9, GNB92)
F2 “But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. (Matthew 5:32, NKJV)
E2 Comment
F1 Does not mean you must divorce
F2 Does mean it is allowed. Often this is preferred.
D3 Porn
E1 Verse: “But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. (Matthew 5:32, NKJV)
E2 Comment
F1 The word for sexual immorality is πορνεία porneia.
F2 The word includes adultery, incest, and porn
F3 This is a serious addiction that God hates.
F4 It is adultery in the heart.
F5 Can be repented of but not common.
C2 Desertion
D1 Physical leaving
E1 Verse: But if the unbelieving partners leave, let them go. Under these circumstances a Christian man or Christian woman is not bound by a marriage vow. God has called you to live in peace. (I Corinthians 7:15 [GodsWord])
E2 Comment
F1 Not all agree with this interpretation
F2 Many do
F3 The individual must decide
D2 Spiritual leaving
E1 This is becoming an agnostic, atheist, or abandoning Christ for another religion.
E2 This is allowed, because it is a denial of one’s vows and a spiritual danger to the believing spouse.
E3 Divorce is recommended.
E4 Remarriage is allowed.
D3 Abuse
E1 This is not because the toilet paper unrolls the wrong way.
E2 It is physical, sexual, spiritual, financial, mental, emotional, verbal, etc. abuse.
E3 This is desertion of the marriage vows.
E4 Divorce is recommended.
E5 No contact to low contact is necessary.
E6 Remarriage is allowed.
E7 1 Corinthians 5:11 GW Now, what I meant was that you should not associate with people who call themselves brothers or sisters in the Christian faith but live in sexual sin, are greedy, worship false gods, use abusive language, get drunk, or are dishonest. Don't eat with such people.
C3 If you stay, you may lose salvation
D1 A relationship that might lead to a denial of Jesus Christ
E1 Verses
F1 All these men had foreign wives. They divorced them and sent them and their children away. (Ezra 10:44, GNB92)
F2 “The LORD your God will bring you into the land that you are going to occupy, and he will drive many nations out of it. As you advance, he will drive out seven nations larger and more powerful than you: the Hittites, the Girgashites, the Amorites, the Canaanites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites. When the LORD your God places these people in your power and you defeat them, you must put them all to death. Do not make an alliance with them or show them any mercy. Do not marry any of them, and do not let your children marry any of them, because then they would lead your children away from the LORD to worship other gods. If that happens, the LORD will be angry with you and destroy you at once. So then, tear down their altars, break their sacred stone pillars in pieces, cut down their symbols of the goddess Asherah, and burn their idols. Do this because you belong to the LORD your God. From all the peoples on earth he chose you to be his own special people. (Deuteronomy 7:1-6, GNB92)
E2 Comment
F1 Marrying non-Israelite women within the boundaries of Israel was forbidden for the reason given above. Deuteronomy 7:1-6
F2 Marrying non-Israelite women outside the boundaries of Israel was allowed
G1 “When you go to attack a city, first give its people a chance to surrender. If they open the gates and surrender, they are all to become your slaves and do forced labor for you. But if the people of that city will not surrender, but choose to fight, surround it with your army. Then, when the LORD your God lets you capture the city, kill every man in it. You may, however, take for yourselves the women, the children, the livestock, and everything else in the city. You may use everything that belongs to your enemies. The LORD has given it to you. That is how you are to deal with those cities that are far away from the land you will settle in. (Deuteronomy 20:10-15, GNB92)
G2 “When the LORD your God gives you victory in battle and you take prisoners, you may see among them a beautiful woman that you like and want to marry. Take her to your home, where she will shave her head, cut her fingernails, and change her clothes. She is to stay in your home and mourn for her parents for a month; after that, you may marry her. Later, if you no longer want her, you are to let her go free. Since you forced her to have intercourse with you, you cannot treat her as a slave and sell her. (Deuteronomy 21:10-14, GNB92)
D2 Might lead to a type of abuse, spiritual abuse.


B1 Not necessary
B2 If wished
C1 Allowable for
D1 Death: For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to [her] husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of [her] husband. So then if, while [her] husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man. (Romans 7:2-3, NKJV)
D2 Permissible reasons (listed above)
C2 Only in the Lord: A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:39, NKJV)


For sexual sins as incest (Leviticus 18:6-18), adultery (Matthew 19:1-9), porn, which is adultery (Matthew 19:1-9), desertion (1 Corinthians 7:15), if spouse causes spiritual danger (false religion, religiously militant, violent)(Ezra 10:44, Deuteronomy 7:1-6), abuse (including physical, spiritual, verbal, financial, sexual, emotional, etc. This is a desertion of marriage vows, and they always need to divorce)(see 1 Corinthians 5:11, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10).