Showing posts with label anger. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anger. Show all posts

11 September 2020

Why Are People So Angry?


A post by Ray Comfort


Facebook entry 12 February 15


“Ray in your own opinion, why are people so angry?” Matty Branagh


The above question was asked in reference to the thousands of abusive comments on this and other Christian sites (most of which don’t get by our moderators).


The Internet, Hollywood, TV, magazines, etc., have flooded this world with sexual perversion, violence, blasphemy, fornication, homosexuality, adultery, and a godless worldview. As each nation gives itself to what the Bible calls “gross” darkness, the more it hates the light. Or to put it another way, the greater the criminal, the more he despises the rule of law.


As Christians, we stand for the rule of Law among those whom the Bible says are desperately wicked criminals, of which we were once a part. We are the ultimate “wet blanket” for sin loving sinners. Every time we speak the truth, it is like light exposing darkness. We remind them the God requires an account, and such produces what we often call “conviction” (an unpleasant sense of guilt).


Take for example a man who argues with his wife and suddenly realizes that she is right. He is in the wrong. He has two avenues of action. He can either humble himself and apologize, or he can keep his pride by becoming angry, slamming the door and leaving.


So it is when proud sinners begin to see that we are speaking the truth, they have two avenues. They can either humble themselves before the God they have offended, or they can become angry and abuse those who represent Him.





25 May 2020

A Few Thoughts About Righteous+Unrighteous Anger

Righteous versus Unrighteousness Anger

How do we know the difference?

Psalm 106:32-33 LITV And they angered Him at the waters of Meribah, and it went ill for Moses because of them; 33 for they provoked his spirit, and he spoke rashly with his lips.

Both God and Moses were angry.
Both were angry at disobedient, unbelieving, rebellious Israel.

One was righteous anger—God.
One was unrighteous anger—Moses.

The difference appears
B1 God
C1 Is the King of all kings.
C2 Is the Lawgiver.
C3 Is the Judge.
B2 Moses
C1 Is the servant of God.
C2 Is the prophet of God.
C3 Is governor under God’s authority.

There was a situation, a need, an appeal, a decision, and a command. God delegated to Moses.
Numbers 20:2, 6-12 WEB There was no water for the congregation; and they assembled themselves together against Moses and against Aaron...6 Moses and Aaron went from the presence of the assembly to the door of the Tent of Meeting, and fell on their faces. Yahweh’s glory appeared to them. 7 Yahweh spoke to Moses, saying, 8 “Take the rod, and assemble the congregation, you, and Aaron your brother, and speak to the rock before their eyes, that it pour out its water. You shall bring water to them out of the rock; so you shall give the congregation and their livestock drink.” 9 Moses took the rod from before Yahweh, as he commanded him. 10 Moses and Aaron gathered the assembly together before the rock, and he said to them, “Hear now, you rebels! Shall we bring water out of this rock for you?” 11 Moses lifted up his hand, and struck the rock with his rod twice, and water came out abundantly. The congregation and their livestock drank. 12 Yahweh said to Moses and Aaron, “Because you didn’t believe in me, to sanctify me in the eyes of the children of Israel, therefore you shall not bring this assembly into the land which I have given them.

Moses did not follow the command of God. He disobeyed by hitting the rock instead of speaking to it. God told Moses that he did not honor God.
B1 Moses did not believe God or sanctify God.
C1 Believe God in this sense is to obey. Obedience shows we believe. Adam did not obey, which shows he did not believe.
C2 Sanctify God in the sense of showing God’s holiness. Just a word is needed without any human effort to strike the rock.
B2 Honoring God is related to recognizing that He is God, giving Him credit for all He has done, and thanking Him. Moses did not honor God by disobedience.
C1 Romans 1:20-21 NKJV For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even His eternal power and Godhead, so that they are without excuse, 21 because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened.
C2 Regarding Messiah: Daniel 7:13-14 NLT As my vision continued that night, I saw someone like a son of man coming with the clouds of heaven. He approached the Ancient One and was led into his presence. 14 He was given authority, honor, and sovereignty over all the nations of the world, so that people of every race and nation and language would obey him. His rule is eternalit will never end. His kingdom will never be destroyed.
B3 In the College Press, it is written on Numbers 20:12:
Initially it appears that Moses will do exactly as the Lord has asked. He gathers the assembly and, after rebuking them by labelling them rebels, addresses himself to the problem. And what was his sin? Some have pointed to the fact that Moses used the plural “we” in reference to the miracle soon to be performed, thus seeming to equate his part in the miracle with the Lord’s; or, to say the least, sharing somewhat in it. Others point to the fact that Moses struck the rock twice, whether motivated by anger, righteousness, or impatience; still others remind us that he was told only to speak to the rock, and should not have touched it at all, Any one of these might have been enough, but if we allow Scripture to interpret Scripture, God Himself refers to Moses’ failure to glorify His name (Num_20:12), thus singling out the greatest offense.

I’m sure I would have done the same as Moses.

Nevertheless, the anger that Moses had, led to a bad decision with serious consequences. Numbers 20:12 CSB But the LORD said to Moses and Aaron, "Because you did not trust me to demonstrate my holiness in the sight of the Israelites, you will not bring this assembly into the land I have given them.

Moses’ anger was unrighteous because it caused wrong actions. He disobeyed God.

The Lord Jesus had righteous anger. Let us study Him. (This is adapted from 6 Things That Made Jesus Angry).
B1 At hypocrites. God is interested in truth. We must be true. Matthew 7:3-5 EMTV And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not notice the plank in your own eye? 4 Or how will you say to your brother, 'Permit me to remove the speck from your eye'; and look, there is a plank in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First remove the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother's eye.
B2 At greed. Many problems are caused by greed. We are to love God and His ways (fellowship, worldview, character traits, and lifestyle) more than money or anything. John 2:14-16 EMTV And He found in the temple those who sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the moneychangers sitting there. 15 And having made a scourge out of cords, He drove them all out of the temple, with the sheep and the oxen, and He poured out the coins of the moneychangers, and He overturned the tables. 16 And He said to those selling the doves, "Take these things away from here! Do not make My Father's house a house of merchandise!"
B3 Non-committal. We need to be one way or another. What is our real commitment to God? Revelation 3:15-16 EMTV I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish that you were cold or hot. 16 Therefore, since you are lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spew you out of My mouth.
B4 Hardheartedness. Refusing to believe God and His ways. Mark 3:5 EMTV And looking around at them with anger, being grieved at the hardness of their hearts, He said to the man, "Stretch out your hand." And he stretched it out, and his hand was restored as whole as the other.
B5 Superiority. This is pride. The idea is, “I’m better than you.”
C1 Matthew 23:4 EMTV For they bind heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on men's shoulders; but they do not desire to move them with their finger.
C2 Luke 18:11-14 EMTV The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, 'God, I thank You that I am not like other men--swindlers, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week, I tithe on all things, as many as I acquire.' 13 And the tax collector, standing far away, would not so much as lift his eyes towards heaven, but beat on his chest, saying, 'God, be merciful to me a sinner!' 14 I say to you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself shall be humbled, and he who humbles himself shall be exalted.
B6 Practicing religious duties publicly for others to see and praise them. Matthew 6:5-6 EMTV And whenever you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites, because they love to pray standing in the synagogues, and on the streetcorners, so that they may be seen by men. Assuredly I say to you, that they receive their reward in full. 6 But you, whenever you pray, enter into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in secret; and your Father, who sees in secret, will reward you openly.

We learn:
B1 When God speaks, take Him literally, at His word. He speaks to us in the writings of Scripture.
B2 Disobedience is easy.
B3 High emotional states can lead to poor thinking, which leads to poor actions, which leads to poor outcomes, which lead to difficulties for all.
B4 We are not to modify God’s plan.
B5 God gives us grace to do what is for every need. 2 Corinthians 12:9 GNB But his answer was: "My grace is all you need, for my power is greatest when you are weak." I am most happy, then, to be proud of my weaknesses, in order to feel the protection of Christ's power over me.

God help us all.

A resource of interest: How Anger Affects Our Body (pdf)

30 January 2020

A Few Thoughts About Anger

B1 English:
C1 A strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism—Merriam-Webster
C2 Wrath is strong emotional anger and usually with action.
B2 Hebrew:
C1 אַף ʼaph (H639). It means properly, the nose or nostril; hence, the face, and occasionally a person; also (from the rapid breathing in passion) ire.
D1 1 Samuel 20:34 NET Jonathan got up from the table enraged. He did not eat any food on that second day of the new moon, for he was upset that his father had humiliated David.
D2 Psalms 103:8 WEB Yahweh is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abundant in loving kindness.
C2 חֵמָה chêmâh (H2534). It means heat; figuratively, anger, poison (from its fever
D1 Jeremiah 23:19 NET But just watch! The wrath of the LORD will come like a storm! Like a raging storm it will rage down on the heads of those who are wicked.
D2 Proverbs 19:19 NET A person with great anger bears the penalty, but if you deliver him from it once, you will have to do it again.
B3 Greek:
C1 ὀργή orgḗ (G3709) properly, desire (as a reaching forth or excitement of the mind), i.e. (by analogy), violent passion (ire, or (justifiable) abhorrence); by implication punishment
D1 John 3:36 WEB One who believes in the Son has eternal life, but one who disobeys the Son won’t see life, but the wrath of God remains on him.”
D2 Mark 3:5 WEB When he had looked around at them with anger, being grieved at the hardening of their hearts, he said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and his hand was restored as healthy as the other.
C2 θυμός thymós (G2372) it means passion, hot anger, wrath (Greek Lexicon Of The New Testament).
D1 Hebrews 11:27 BSB By faith Moses left Egypt, not fearing the king’s anger; he persevered because he saw Him who is invisible.
D2 Revelation of John 12:12 BSB Therefore rejoice, O heavens, and you who dwell in them! But woe to the earth and the sea; with great fury the devil has come down to you, knowing he has only a short time.”
D3 Revelation of John 14:8 LEB And another second angel followed, saying, “Fallen, fallen is Babylon the great, who caused all the nations to drink from the wine of the passion of her sexual immorality.”

Two types
B1 Sinful:
C1 Matthew 5:22 WEL But I tell you that whoever is angry with his brother or sister without a just reason will be in danger of The Judgment, and whoever says to his brother, “Raca,” will be in danger of the Council, but whoever says, “You fool!” Will be in danger of Gehenna fire. [Emphasis is mine]
C2 John 15:25 MKJV But that the Word might be fulfilled that is written in their law, "They hated Me without a cause."
B2 Not sinful
C1 Mark 3:5 NRSV He looked around at them with anger; he was grieved at their hardness of heart and said to the man, "Stretch out your hand." He stretched it out, and his hand was restored.
C2 Ephesians 4:26 NRSV Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.

The Lord Jesus was angry. He did not sin. So we learn
B1 The Lord Jesus being both 100% human and 100% God was angry.
B2 There is an angry that is correct and not sinful.
B3 There needs to be a cause.
B4 In abuse, there is a cause. In fact, it is a crime that must be reported to law enforcement. This is to prevent others from being hurt.
B5 Some causes:
C1 The hardness of their heart. The Lord Jesus had shown and taught the people who He is. He shows compassion to help this man. He shows He wants to clarify their misunderstanding of their interpretation of Mosaic Law. But, the people would not listen, they would not have compassion, they would not discuss the Scriptures, they would not answer His questions. It was their understanding, their interpretation that was correct and no other. They wouldn’t even look up the Scriptures!
C2 Deliberate breaking of God’s Law:
D1 Moses: Exodus 32:19 NRSV As soon as he came near the camp and saw the calf and the dancing, Moses' anger burned hot, and he threw the tablets from his hands and broke them at the foot of the mountain.
D2 Nehemiah: Nehemiah 13:25 NRSV And I contended with them and cursed them and beat some of them and pulled out their hair; and I made them take an oath in the name of God, saying, "You shall not give your daughters to their sons, or take their daughters for your sons or for yourselves.
Reference: Exodus 34:15-16 NRSV You shall not make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land, for when they prostitute themselves to their gods and sacrifice to their gods, someone among them will invite you, and you will eat of the sacrifice.  16  And you will take wives from among their daughters for your sons, and their daughters who prostitute themselves to their gods will make your sons also prostitute themselves to their gods.
C3 God’s punishment. He is King of the Universe and King of all kings. He is the Law Giver and Judge. Break His law, and there is punishment: Micah 5:14-15 NRSV and I will uproot your sacred poles from among you and destroy your towns. 15 And in anger and wrath I will execute vengeance on the nations that did not obey.
C4 Government punishment: Romans 13:3-4 NRSV For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Do you wish to have no fear of the authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive its approval; 4 for it is God's servant for your good. But if you do what is wrong, you should be afraid, for the authority does not bear the sword in vain! It is the servant of God to execute wrath on the wrongdoer.
C5 King Saul against the Ammonites. Note, the Spirit of God came upon King Saul. 1 Samuel 11:5-6 NRSV Now Saul was coming from the field behind the oxen; and Saul said, "What is the matter with the people, that they are weeping?" So they told him the message from the inhabitants of Jabesh. 6 And the spirit of God came upon Saul in power when he heard these words, and his anger was greatly kindled.
C6 Jonathan. His father, King Saul, wanted to kill David for crimes that David did not do. There was no cause for King Saul to do this. When he tried to kill David, Jonathan was very angry. He had a cause to be angry at this injustice as is defined by God’s law. 1 Samuel 20:31-34 NRSV For as long as the son of Jesse lives upon the earth, neither you nor your kingdom shall be established. Now send and bring him to me, for he shall surely die." 32 Then Jonathan answered his father Saul, "Why should he be put to death? What has he done?" 33 But Saul threw his spear at him to strike him; so Jonathan knew that it was the decision of his father to put David to death. 34 Jonathan rose from the table in fierce anger and ate no food on the second day of the month, for he was grieved for David, and because his father had disgraced him.
B6 Anger is destructive, so God gives instruction to not go to bed angry. Ephesians 4:26 ESV Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger

Anger which is sin is when someone is angry due to misunderstanding. Anger which is sin is if someone is controlling, abusive, hurting emotionally or verbally to coerce another’s actions or belief, etc. Many times they hurt someone by anger just because they can.

If we are angry, some helps
B1 If it is due to a misunderstanding, clarification is needed. Calmly discuss the situation with that person. Don’t bring it up for all to see, hear, or read.
B2 If it is from an abuser who is abusing in any way, leave. Do not argue with an abuser, for that only causes more trouble. Abusers can repent, but probably 99% will not.
B3 Pray. God gives grace and peace to help. We must actively calm our mind by not thinking about this when we lay down to sleep.
C1 Colossians 3:2 NRSV Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth,
C2 Isaiah 26:3-4 ESV You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. 4 Trust in the LORD forever, for the LORD GOD is an everlasting rock.
B4 Give our anxieties to God. The devil wants to destroy us. So we must be aware. 1 Peter 5:6-8 ESV Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, 7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
B5 Realize God is compassionate and understanding of those under stress:
C1 Matthew 11:28 NRSV Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.
C2 Psalms 107:6 NRSV Then they cried to the LORD in their trouble, and he delivered them from their distress.
C3 John 16:33 NRSV I have said this to you, so that in me you may have peace. In the world you face persecution. But take courage; I have conquered the world!"
B6 Then do some of the usually recommended things as listen to calming music, take a walk, listen to the sounds of nature, etc.

21 November 2018

Ephesians 4:24-32

A1 Scriptures
Ephesians 4:24-32 NKJV And that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness. 25 Therefore, putting away lying, "LET EACH ONE OF YOU SPEAK TRUTH WITH HIS NEIGHBOR," for we are members of one another. 26 "BE ANGRY, AND DO NOT SIN": do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 27 nor give place to the devil. 28 Let him who stole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with his hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need. 29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
A2 Outline
B1 The New Man
C1 To be put on.
C2 Which was created in God's image.
D1 In true righteousness
D2 In true holiness
B2 Practice Instructions for the Church
C1 Do not lie anymore.
C2 Do not be angry anymore.
C3 Do not steal any more.
C4 Do not be lazy anymore.
C5 Do not be selfish anymore.
C6 Do not speak stupid stuff any more.
C7 Do not grieve the Holy Spirit any more.
C8 Do not be bitter anymore.
C9 Do not have wrath any more.
C10 Do not have anger any more.
C11 Do not be loud, insistent, and demanding any more.
C12 Do not speak evil any more.
C13 Do not have malice any more.
C14 Do not be unkind any more.
C15 Do not be hard hearted any more.
C16 Do not refuse to forgive any more.
A3 Notes
B1 Put on = as in clothes. What we wear often reflects on our lifestyle, habits, personality, tastes, etc. As in (The night is nearly over, and the day is near; so let us get rid of the works of the darkness, and let us put on the weapons of the light—Romans 13:12 WPNT) we are to take off evil and wear the armor of light. What we wear should be consistent to who we are and believe. If we are evil, we should look evil. If we are not evil, we should not look evil. Here we are to put on something. That something is the new man. We have a new attitude. This is renewed as the old attitude, desires, views, standards are to be discarded. The new here is all that is contained in the New Testament. Mind here stands for the part of a human that reasons, thinks, makes decisions, etc.
B2 New man = the new creation. The work of rebirth done by God himself without any works from us. The old flesh is still present with us, gets sick, and eventually dies.
B3 The new man is in God's image. The first, of Adam, was lost, damaged, corrupted because of sin.
B4 True righteousness = not a fake righteousness, facade, or hypocrisy. Many have an outward, religious appearing holiness which is not truth. Righteousness is defined by God's character and His thoughts, desires, words, and deeds. True righteousness is found in the inner self.
B5 True holiness = not a fake holiness of someone parading around pretending to be a holy man/woman. "So whenever you give alms, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, so that they may be praised by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward." (Matthew 6:2 NRSV)
B6 The Greek in verse 24 reads "righteousness and true holiness."
B7 A list of 16 rules from God for the way that we are to live.
C1 No lies—little lies, big lies, medium lies. God does not lie, therefore we should not either. If caught in a lie, confess it. "I just caught myself in a lie; please forgive me. Here is the truth."
C2 No anger. Anger is "the strong feeling you get when you think someone has treated you badly or unfairly, that makes you want to hurt them or shout at them—Macmillan Dictionary. Consider—But I say to you that whoever gets angry with his brother without cause will be liable to the judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Numskull!’ will be liable to the council. But whoever says, ‘You absolute idiot!’ will be liable to hell fire." (Matthew 5:22 WPNT). Pickering notes, "God hates injustice and will judge it. Less than 2% of the Greek manuscripts, of inferior quality, omit “without cause” (as in NIV, NASB, LB, TEV, etc.). NIV, NASB and LB favor us with a footnote informing us that “some manuscripts” add ‘without cause—by “some” they mean 98% of them!! More serious, the shorter text has the effect of forbidding anger, which would contradict other Scriptures ("Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah"—Psalms 4:4 NKJV) and the Lord's own example ("After looking around at them with anger, being grieved at the hardness of their hearts, He says to the man, “Stretch out your hand!” So he stretched, and his hand was restored as healthy as the other!"—Mark 3:5 WPNT) The point anger will be experienced, but we must not let the sun go down before we have cooled off. Holding on to anger causes many problems.
C3 No stealing—taking what is not ours. It is due to covetousness. It can be taking people, time, property, affections, keeping what we should be giving.
C4 No laziness—Work instead. If for some reason you cannot find a job, look for one say maybe once a week. In the meantime study something, volunteer for something or someone. Do something valuable for God, His church, or society.
C5 No selfishness
C6 No stupid talking—teasing is OK for a little well, but then it becomes verbal abuse. What we are to talk about is for edifying, not destroying someone. People die from bullying. It is serious.
C7 No grieving the Holy Spirit—What is grieving the Holy Spirit? When I was young, maybe 9 or 10, my Grandma Gane hired a paper hanger. He was a professional. She had bought a dozen donuts for all of us to enjoy at break time. While he was papering, I was sneaking donuts. When break time arrived, Grandma got the donuts out and saw only 1 donut in the box. She looked at me and said, "O, Lenny." That is right I had eaten 11 donuts. I felt bad but I had caused Grandma grief. So it is with the Holy Spirit. He has plans for us and when we disobey, we grieve Him—not a smart thing to do. "How often they rebelled against Him in the wilderness and grieved Him in the desert."—Psalms 78:40, HCSB). "But they rebelled and grieved His Holy Spirit. So He became their enemy and fought against them."—Isaiah 63:10, HCSB)
C8 No bitterness—bitterness is what happens in prolonged disappointment of any type. Have you or I ever made a promise and did not keep it? That type of action can lead to bitterness in the person who was promised something. What you don't listen—really listen—to your spouse when he/she wants to talk? You are causing bitterness. Bitterness leads to abuse and acting out from pent up anger.
C9 No wrath—the type of anger when one is out of control. Go talk a walk. Don't drive just walk.
C10 No anger.
C11 No clamoring—loud, insistent, and demanding. This is one way of expressing anger.
C12 No speaking evil—as in slander, blasphemy, lies, verbal abuse of any kind.
C13 No malice—is deep hatred with action as in "When his brothers saw that their father loved Joseph more than he loved them, they hated their brother so much that they would not speak to him in a friendly manner—Genesis 37:4, GNB92.
C14 No unkindness—think of being kind to animals. Therefore no ill will, causing pain or discomfort to any, being aware of people's needs. Do be a narcissist.
C15 No hard heartedness—stubborn to cause and retain ill feelings towards others. "he told us to ask you, ‘Please forgive the crime your brothers committed when they wronged you.' Now please forgive us the wrong that we, the servants of your father's God, have done.” Joseph cried when he received this message. (Genesis 50:17, GNB92).
C16 No more refusing to forgive—forgiveness is not letting someone get away with punishment but is turning that punishment over to God, who judges perfectly. When I forgive some, God may or may not forgive.
B8 Verse 25: Who is our neighbor? It is any one we meet. In this verse it is especially referring to members of the church. We are members of one another. Jesus Christ is the head, and all the believers (the saints) are the body.
B9 Verse 26: Anger held on to is unhealthy.
Healthy and Unhealthy Anger (This link is dead as of 10 Dec 14)
Showing the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger.
Introduction, anger is a natural and necessary emotion. Anger is anger, it is in itself neither right nor wrong, healthy nor unhealthy. It is the expression of anger that makes it healthy or unhealthy. When it is expressed appropriately within the context of a situation it is a necessary emotion. Feeling anger is different from expressing anger, and it is the inappropriate expression of anger that makes it unhealthy.
Not feeling any anger in a situation is just as unhealthy as expressing anger in a cageful, vengeful manner. e.g.: when we see a child being beaten cruelly, it is natural to feel anger, however this does NOT justify the inappropriate expression by yelling, screaming or beating the abuser. This is healthy anger.
Healthy Anger:
Healthy anger is appropriate to the situation that evokes it. Healthy expression of anger involves facing what makes you angry and an effort to set boundaries for yourself by determining what you will do in response to what makes you angry.
e.g.: When you do ________, I feel ______ , and to protect myself I will _________.
Healthy anger is not used to punish, is not violent, and is not used to intimidate, control or manipulate the other person. It is expressed, discussed and moved through.
Healthy anger is not stuffed down and ignored. Stuffed anger creates resentment and a myriad of physical, mental and emotional problems. Healthy anger is not expressed in passive-aggressive and manipulative ways.
Unhealthy Anger:
Unhealthy Anger is a component of abusive relationships. This kind of anger or rage is experienced with great intensity and expressed likewise by screaming and yelling, physical expressions of anger, violence or threats of violence, sulking, manipulation, emotional blackmail, silent smoldering, and anger used to punish.
Rage is a shame-based expression of anger.
Rage is by definition abuse. They react to strong emotions with rage, i.e. feelings of fear, sadness, shame, inadequacy, guilt or loss convert to rage.
They were typically shamed or punished by their caretakers for expressing emotion when they were young; i.e.: "Be a man and don't cry", "Nice girls don't get angry" or "I'll give you something to cry about".
Raging gives the angry person a feeling of power - offsetting their shame and feelings of inadequacy.
Unexpressed anger related to childhood abuses often results in addictive problems later in life. To stuff down the feelings of shame, anger, isolation, fear, sadness and loss the abuse creates.
By pushing feelings down it is impossible to work through feelings and move past them, keeping the person trapped in a downward spiral.
B10 Verse 27: Give no opportunity to the devil. From Handfuls on Purpose: "Give No Place to the Devil (Ephesians 4:27). The Devil is always in search of a place in our lives. He knows that if he can but get his poison into the blood, that the whole man will be affected. Paul forgave others, "lest Satan should get an advantage of us" (2Co 2:10-11). The hasty temper and the unforgiving mood gives Satan a great advantage. "Resist the Devil and he will flee from you."
B11 Verse 29: What is evil speech? How do we know? The context states that what we say is to be for edification. Sometimes truth hurts but must be told.
B12 God does have emotions. He can be grieved, that is, become sad. What makes God sad? A lack of faith, disobedience, rebellion, etc.
B13 Verses 31 and 32 are to be taken together. Verse 31 contains a list of what NOT to do, and verse 32 what we MUST do. God's laws/rules are like that. Somethings please God and we are to do. The list in verse 31 are things not to do to one another, instead we are to do the list in verse 32.
A4 Applications
B1 God does define a righteous life.
B2 God requires us to live a righteous life.
B3 God gives us specifics about a righteous life.
B4 By our thinking, doing, and talking in private and public will reveal our character: Matthew 7:15-20 NRSV "Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thorns, or figs from thistles? 17 In the same way, every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Thus you will know them by their fruits.
B5 God requires, so He will assist by His grace: Romans 12:1-2 NRSV I appeal to you therefore, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God—what is good and acceptable and perfect.
B6 His grace: 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 NRSV but he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness." So, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. 10 Therefore I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities for the sake of Christ; for whenever I am weak, then I am strong.

12 February 2015




What are we to do about our anger? What are the rules about anger for the Christian?

A1 What is anger?

B1 A response of displeasure

C1 Many understand anger to be a response to a threat.

C2 But in reality seems to be more a response to one's standard of life--their own personal rules, morality, and beliefs.

C3 May be calculated as a manipulation.

C4 May be suppressed, which can lead to other problems.

B2 Physical effects

C1 Usually documented are physical effects as increased heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing.

C2 The face shows a distinctive red color, narrowed eye brows, piecing stare,, clenched teeth, and straight lips (if not curled).

C3 Sometimes the only expression may be in the piercing eyes.

C4 There are postures and other body language signs as clenched fists, fighting stance, quick movements, etc.

C5 Sometimes there is physical aggression as fighting, verbal outburst, or destructive behavior as vandalism or destruction of property.

B3 Emotional effects

C1 An outpouring of epinephrine and norepinephrine.

C2 Depression, remorse, guilt, shame, and alienation

B4 Others

C1 Anger may be controlled and calculating.

C2 Anger may be a rage of self destructive behavior.

C3 Judgment and insight are usually suppressed.

C4 Anger may come from misconceptions, misunderstanding, and a response to past triggers.

B5 Types (1)

C1 Passive

D1 Dispassion (showing little or no response as shrug, shutting the eyes as if asleep, or doodling, etc.)

D2 Evasiveness (walking away, turning the back, ignoring, etc.)

D3 Defeatism (setting up others for failure, passive aggression, etc.)

D4 Psychological manipulation

D5 Secretive behavior

D6 Self blame

C2 Aggressive

D1 Bullying

D2 Destructiveness

D3 Grandiosity

D4 Hurtfulness (hurting others feelings)

D5 Manic behavior

D6 Selfishness

D7 Threats

D8 Unjust blaming

D9 Unpredictability

D10 Revenge

A2 What are the rules?

B1 Don't have anger leading to murder. (Exodus 21:14,

B2 Don't make God angry with you.

C1 Disbelief (Zechariah 7:12, Nehemiah 9:29-30, Mark 16:14)

C2 Disobedience (Deuteronomy 4:21, Psalms 7:11)

C3 Making a vow to God and not keeping it (I'm sorry I just made a mistake.) (Ecclesiastes 5:6)

C4 Stopping or "deprograming" children from believing in God, praying, or Bible reading/studying. (Mark 10:14)

C5 Being a hypocrite. (Luke 13:15)

B3 Don't make your spouse jealous (Proverbs 6:34)

B4 Don't give the wicked what they want. (Proverbs 11:23). They wicked want more evil.

B5 Don't make friends with people who have hot, violent tempers. (Don't make friends with people who have hot, violent tempers. You might learn their habits and not be able to change. (Proverbs 22:24-25, GNB92)

B6 When we are angry, we lose insight and judgment. We then make stupid decisions and do stupid things that we are later sorry for. (Proverbs 14:17)

B7 When we are angry, we make the situation worse. It will only escalate. (Proverbs 29:22).

B8 Anger leads to arguments. (Psalm 37:8, Proverbs 15:18, Proverbs 29:22)

A3 How to handle anger

B1 A gift to the angry person. Give this in private otherwise it may make the angry person angrier as if you are trying to show them up. Consider the gift from Abigail to David. 1 Samuel 2:2-28

B2 Keep calm with an angry person especially if they are a government official (police, etc.) or your boss. (Ecclesiastes 10:4)

B3 Do not go to bed angry. (Ephesians 4:26)

B4 Do not make your children angry. (Ephesians 6:4)

B5 Listen for a long time and be slow to get angry (take time to really understand someone and what they are saying before becoming angry). (Proverbs 29:8, James 1:19)

B6 Pray. (1 Timothy 2:8)

B7 Speak to the angry person in a calm, quiet way. (Proverbs 15:1)

Take some time to think deeply what you are doing, as in do not plot revenge (Romans 12:19). It is better to suffer than take revenge. (Proverbs 4:4)

B8 Forgive. (Matthew 6:14) Forgiveness is not that the offender gets away with something but rather it is placed in God's hands who will deal with it correctly. Hopefully the offender will repent and ask God (and you) for forgiveness.

B9 Love as in being nice to the angry person. You might not succeed in helping them or even calming them down, but you have gone the second mile. (Proverbs 10:12, Proverbs 27:9, James 4:1)

B10 Leave the area. (Proverbs 14:7)

B11 We need to express our anger, but it must be done with self-control and when the rush of adrenalin is gone. Sit down with someone and talk about it. We need to listen to the difficulties of others.

B12 Not take it personally. (Proverbs 19:11)

B13 Even worldly philosophy points out. (2)

A4 What can we be angry at?

B1 The things that make God angry.

C1 Returning evil for good. (Romans 2:4)

C2 Thinking that our anger is righteous. (James 1:19-20)

C3 Revenge. We are to treat our enemy nicely. (Romans 12:19-21)

C4 Bearing grudges instead of forgiving. (Leviticus 19:18)

C5 Not forgiving those who ask for forgiveness. (Matthew 18:32-34)

C6 Worshipping idols (basically an idol is anything we look to for ultimate authority). (Exodus 32:19)

C7 Leaving/denying God. (Hebrews 3:12)

B2 Dishonoring God (Exodus 20:7)

C1 Who He is.

C2 What He does.

C3 What He decides (His decisions/judgments).

C4 What He says (the Scriptures in their plain, normal sense).

C5 What He promises.

C6 What He labels evil or good. When we call evil good and good evil, we are dishonoring God.

C7 His name.

C8 His character traits.

A5 Sources:

B1 (1) ANGER, 12 February 2015, Wikipedia Authors,, Accessed 12 February 2015

B2 (2) THE DOWNSIDE OF ANGER, 1 July 2003, Hara Estroff Marano,, Accessed 12 February 2015

A6 Links and other opinions