Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

02 September 2018

Are You Feeling Loved?

A sermon for today
Are You Feeling Loved?

What is love?
A1 Most people want love, feel loved, and give love to others. Yet, do we love? Do we love our spouse? Do they know that? Do they feel loved? Do you love your children? Do they feel loved? Do you love your parents, your brothers, your sisters, your fellow Christian?
A2 Most people do not feel loved
B1 Loneliness is a growing problem.
C1 Nearly half of Americans report sometimes or always feeling alone (46 percent) or left out (47 percent).
C2 One in four Americans (27 percent) rarely or never feel as though there are people who really understand them.
C3 Two in five Americans sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not meaningful (43 percent) and that they are isolated from others (43 percent).
C4 One in five people report they rarely or never feel close to people (20 percent) or feel like there are people they can talk to (18 percent).
C5 Americans who live with others are less likely to be lonely (average loneliness score of 43.5) compared to those who live alone (46.4). However, this does not apply to single parents/guardians (average loneliness score of 48.2) – even though they live with children, they are more likely to be lonely.
C6 Only around half of Americans (53 percent) have meaningful in-person social interactions, such as having an extended conversation with a friend or spending quality time with family, on a daily basis.
C7 Generation Z (adults ages 18-22) is the loneliest generation and claims to be in worse health than older generations.
B3 The Bible addresses this, too.
C1 Matthew 24:12 GNB Such will be the spread of evil that many people's love will grow cold.
C2 Romans 12:9 WEB Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil. Cling to that which is good.
C3 1 John 3:18 WEB My little children, let’s not love in word only, neither with the tongue only, but in deed and truth.
A3 What is love?
B1 It is a choice. It is a choosing that I will treat someone special.
C1 Some choose to make the choice to love money and wealth: Luke 16:13 WEL "No household servant can serve two masters, for he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and Mammon." Even though love of money is A root of evil: 1 Timothy 6:9-10 WEL Those who determine to be rich fall into temptation, a trap, and into many foolish and harmful cravings, which drown men in destruction and eternal ruin. 10 For the love of money is a root of all evil, which some, longing for, strayed from the faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows.
C2 Some choose to love power: 3 John 1:9 WEB I wrote to the assembly, but Diotrephes, who loves to be first among them, doesn’t accept what we say.
C3 Some choose to love this world, its pleasures, its lusts: 1 John 2:15-17 WEB Don’t love the world, neither the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the Father’s love isn’t in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, isn’t the Father’s, but is the world’s. The world is passing away with its lusts, but he who does God’s will remains forever.
C4 Some choose to supremely love themself: 1 Timothy 3:2-5 WEL For people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, braggers, arrogant, users of abusive language, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural affection, impossible to please, false accusers, unable to control themselves, fierce, despising those who are good, 4 Traitors, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 Having an appearance of godliness but having spurned its power.
C5 What we are to love: Luke 10:27-28 GNB92 The man answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind’; and ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.’” “You are right,” Jesus replied; “do this and you will live.”
B2 Love’s actions are listed in the Bible. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a WEL Love is very patient and kind; love is not envious; love doesn't brag about itself, is not haughty, 5 Doesn't behave improperly, is not self-seeking; love isn't easily aggravated, doesn’t keep a list of wrongs, 6 Doesn't rejoice in injustice, but rejoices with the truth, 7 Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends.
B3 We choose to do these things.
B4 Choices have consequences: Proverbs 1:26-29 GW I will laugh at your calamity. I will make fun of you when panic strikes you, 27 when panic strikes you like a violent storm, when calamity strikes you like a windstorm, when trouble and anguish come to you. 28 "They will call to me at that time, but I will not answer. They will look for me, but they will not find me, 29 because they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the LORD.
A4 4 Greek words for love
B1 ἀγαπάω agapaō which refers to love is a choice. It is the deepest love. This is the love we are talking about today.
C1 John 3:16 NKJV For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
C2 Matthew 5:43-44 NRSV You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' (44) But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
C3 2 Timothy 4:10 NRSV For Demas, in love with this present world, has deserted me and gone to Thessalonica; Crescens has gone to Galatia, Titus to Dalmatia.
B2 φιλέω phileō which refers to brotherly love, that is, the love of friends. It is a personal attachment to something (Strong’s Lexicon) and affection. Thus, it is possible to love your spouse as agapaō and phileō.
C1 John 5:20 NRSV The Father loves the Son and shows him all that he himself is doing; and he will show him greater works than these, so that you will be astonished.
C2 John 12:25 NRSV Those who love their life lose it, and those who hate their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
C3 1 Corinthians 16:22 NRSV Let anyone be accursed who has no love for the Lord. Our Lord, come!
B3 ἔρως érōs is sexual, passionate, physical love, even infatuation. This word is not in the Bible.
B4 στέργω stergo which is to cherish. It is used in the negative use 2 times in the New Testament (ἄστοργος astorgos).
C1 Romans 1:31 NKJV Undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful. Another translation: Romans 1:31 GW Don't have any sense, don't keep promises, and don't show love to their own families or mercy to others.
C2 2 Timothy 3:3 NKJV Unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good. Another translation: 2 Timothy 3:3 GW And lack normal affection for their families. They will refuse to make peace with anyone. They will be slanderous, lack self-control, be brutal, and have no love for what is good.
A5 Some pointers, think about it.
B1 Turn media off, put the phone down, take the earbuds out.
B2 Turn your eyes, ears, and attention to your spouse. Her opinion is most likely better than yours.
B3 Your wife does NOT need a strong hand to lead her. Just. Stop. That. Kind. Of Thinking.
B4 Listen to her. This is not just looking at her and making mocking expressions pretending to listen. LISTEN!
B5 When you ask a question, wait for an answer. WAIT! In a study with teachers it was found that those who wait at least 3 seconds for an answer improved students attitude. (Source)
B6 There IS A DIFFERENCE between talking TO and talking WITH your child, your spouse, your parent, your brother, your sister, your neighbor.
B7 If you see something that needs to be done, do it. If you see your wife busy and the dishes need washing, wash, dry, and put them away.
B8 Your wife drinks coffee in the morning? Get her cup out for her.
B9 SHOW compassion!
B10 If you are a boss, a manager, a supervisor, do the same for your employees.
B11 If you are an employee, do the same, do the same for your boss.
B12 You can be kind and SHOW you love your wife.
B13 Show love every possible time to glorify God.
B14 As much as possible live in peace with all people.
B15 You will fail at times, but God gives grace.
B16 Memorize 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a and practice doing these things every single day in public and private.


Copyright © 2018 by Len Gane All rights reserved.

14 February 2018

Pass It On

Pass it on

Theme: Generational Discipleship

Scriptures: Deuteronomy 6:5-9, Ephesians 4:11-13, and Galatians 5:22-23

Objectives: (From the D6 Fusion Sunday School Lesson book)

Know: Parents are to disciple their children. They can draw help and support for this from their own parents, and from their church family.

Think: One of my greatest priorities is living out God’s Word and teaching it to my children, and the next generation.

Do: Love God, obey His Word, and teach my children and others to do the same.

Notes and questions:

B1 Bonding

C1 In bonding with our children, eye contact is one of the most important. This includes the child with the parent and the parent with the child.

C2 Response to the child vocalizing needs.

C3 Vocalization between parent and child.

C4 Both enjoying contact (the physical contact between infant and parent, especially the mother, is vitally important.

C5 Initiating and maintaining affection and comfort.

C6 Bilateral empathy.

C7 Parent sets age appropriate limits.

C8 Age appropriate response to separation.

C9 A general joyfulness when together.

C10 Parents respond appropriately to child’s fears.

C11 Can listen.

C12 Eye contact with family and others (especially school age).

C13 Further information here and here.

C14 Some people worry about spoiling the child with too much time together. Life should be in moderation, but in general, parents need to spend more time with their children until the children leave home. At that point, a new type of balance needs to be achieved. Child independence should increase as they get older.

C15 Without adequate bonding, a child grows up with many difficulties. Some of these are addressed in the second link above.

C16 Not necessarily with Christian principles, these articles may be helpful.

B2 Love (review)

C1 Is a choice.

C2 It is seen and experienced by the following characteristics:

D1 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is very patient and kind; love is not envious; love doesn't brag about itself, is not haughty, Doesn't behave improperly, is not self-seeking; love isn't easily aggravated, doesn’t keep a list of wrongs, Doesn't rejoice in injustice, but rejoices with the truth, Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends...

D2 Patience

D3 Kindness

D4 Not envious

D5 Not boastful

D6 Not conceited

D7 Not rude

D8 Not selfish

D9 Not easily provoked

D10 Not keeping a list of wrongs (also understood as not assuming someone in an evil way)

D11 No happiness with unrighteousness

D12 Rejoices in truth

D13 Forbearing

D14 Believes (always keep just a little skepticism)

D15 Hopes

D16 Endures

D17 Does not end

B3 Guidelines for raising children

C1 One author summarizes 

D1 Message (Begin with the Gospel)

D2 Mission (Matthew 28:18-20 & Acts 1:6-11)

D3 Motive (Mark 12:28-34 & 1 Corinthians 13:1-13)

D4 Knowledge (Proverbs 2:1-6 & Philippians 3:8-14 together)

D5 Character (Galatians 5:6-26 & Philippians 4:4-9)

D6 Conduct (Mark 4:1-20 & Mark 9:33-41)

C2 Love them

D1 Love is not showering them with gifts and activities.

D2 Love is not letting them do what they want without guidance.

D3 Love is setting limits. God does this with us. We do not have unlimited, sovereign freedom. If possible, it is good to teach them how to sit still at 2 years old. This mom tells us how she did (I can’t vouch for the website, as I haven’t checked it out. I only read the article). The pasture illustration.

D4 Love is spending time with them.

D5 Love is consistency.

D6 Love is steadfastness.

D7 Love is letting them have some freedom. Don’t be a helicopter parent. Some information can be found here—Let Grow. A program followed by a school is here.

C3 Listen to them

C4 Practice what you preach. This is showing a good example.

C5 Give them ideals.

C6 Let them fail. Let them try things. Support them, not oppress them.

C7 Live and enjoy life as a family unit, not as separate individuals just living in the same house.

C8 Be a Christian.

D1 Teach them what a Christian is and why.

D2 Show them there are answers to hard questions.

D3 Tell them the gospel.

D4 Live the gospel.

D5 Pray with them.

D6 Confess and ask forgiveness.

D7 Love your spouse openly with kindness, respect, compassion, helpfulness, etc.

D8 Let them see you reading and studying the Bible.

D9 Live by the Bible’s concepts.

D10 Defend the faith.

D11 Show them the greatest fulfillment is loving God, and that the only way to love God is obey Him, and that the New Testament teachings are the voice of God.

D12 Show them by thoughts, desires, words, and deeds that being a Bible believing Christian is very important.

D13 Go to church.

D14 Make it a point to have your close friends be Christians.

D15 Serve and help others as much as possible.

C9 Emphasize empathy.

C10 Praise them for traits and attitudes. Do not praise them for natural talents or beauty.

C11 How does this passage apply or not apply to the above? Deuteronomy 6:6-7 NKJV And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.

D1 How do we keep God’s words in our heart?

D2 Is it enough to have God’s words in our heart or do we have to live them?

D3 What is the best way to teach children?

D4 Why is talking about God’s word instructive to children?

D5 How do we know the meaning of these words?

D6 How much time every day are we to teach our children?

D7 How can the church help the family teach the children?

D8 Is it only the Pastor’s job?

B4 How do we keep our children in the faith? We and they need:

C1 Knowledge

D1 Bible knowledge

D2 Doctrine

D3 Life issues

E1 Temptation

E2 Sin

E3 Forgiveness

E4 Assurance

E5 God’s standards

E6 Prophecy

D4 How to grow in the faith

E1 Bible reading

E2 Bible study

E3 Fellowship

E4 Prayer

E5 Suffering

C2 Character

D1 In thoughts, desires, words, and deeds

D2 Time to grow (need experience)

D3 Truth

D4 Confession of sin

D5 Trust

C3 Apologetics

D1 Bible reliability

D2 Jesus

D3 Hard questions

E1 Problem of evil

E2 Creation

E3 Noah’s flood

D4 Issues of society

B5 Galatians 5:22-23 NKJV  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  23  gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

C1 How does God teach us the fruit of the Spirit?

C2 How does living the fruits help our family, our children, and our grandchildren?

C3 How can we learn more about these fruits and grow in them?

B6 2 Peter 3:18 NKJV But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory both now and forever. Amen.

B7 Next week:

C1 Making up the differences

C2 Theme: Adoptive Discipleship

C3 Scriptures: Titus 2, 1 Samuel 3:1-10, 2 Timothy 2:2, Acts 8:26-40, and Acts 18:24-28

13 December 2017

Love: The Greatest of All



Theme: The excellence of love

Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 13

Objectives: (From the D6 Fusion Sunday School Lesson book)
Know: Paul challenged the Corinthians to value love above all gifts, abilities, and virtues.
Think: Consider love for God and others to be the motivation for my attitudes and actions.
Do: Demonstrate love in my attitudes and actions toward God and others.

Notes and questions:
B1 What is love?
This?


This?
The Son of Man has come 
to seek and to save that 
which was lost (Luke 19:10).
B2 Brief review on the Hebrew and Greek words for love
C1 Hebrew has
D1 אָהֵב  âhab  אָהַב 'âhêb which is, according to Strong’s Lexicon:
E1 Human love for another, includes family, and sexual
E2 Human appetite for objects such as food, drink, sleep, wisdom
E3 Human love for or to God
E4 Act of being a friend
F1 Lover (participle)
F2 Friend (participle)
E5 God's love toward man
F1 To individual men
F2 To people Israel
F3 To righteousness
E6 Examples
F1 Genesis 22:2 NKJV  Then He said, "Take now your son, your only son Isaac, whom you love, and go to the land of Moriah, and offer him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains of which I shall tell you.
F2 Psalms 45:7 NKJV  You love righteousness and hate wickedness; Therefore God, Your God, has anointed You With the oil of gladness more than Your companions.
F3 Isaiah 41:8 NKJV  But you, Israel, are My servant, Jacob whom I have chosen, The descendants of Abraham My friend.
D2 אַהֲבָה 'ahăbâh This is love between humans and God’s love. Example: Deuteronomy 7:8 NKJV  But because the LORD loves you, and because He would keep the oath which He swore to your fathers, the LORD has brought you out with a mighty hand, and redeemed you from the house of bondage, from the hand of Pharaoh king of Egypt.
D3 חָבַב châbab This is love is to cherish. Example: Deuteronomy 33:3 NKJV  Yes, He loves the people; All His saints are in Your hand; They sit down at Your feet; Everyone receives Your words.
D4 חָשַׁק châshaq This is love of one’s heart attached to another. Example: Deuteronomy 7:7 NKJV  The LORD did not set His love on you nor choose you because you were more in number than any other people, for you were the least of all peoples.
C2 There are 4 words in Greek
D1 ἀγαπάω agapaō which refers to love is a choice. It is the deepest love.
E1 John 3:16 NKJV  For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
E2 Matthew 5:43-44 NRSV  You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.'  (44)  But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
E3 2 Timothy 4:10 NRSV  For Demas, in love with this present world, has deserted me and gone to Thessalonica; Crescens has gone to Galatia, Titus to Dalmatia.
D2 φιλέω phileō which refers to brotherly love, that is, the love of friends. It is a personal attachment to something (Strong’s Lexicon) and affection. Thus, it is possible to love your spouse as agapaō and phileō.
E1 John 5:20 NRSV  The Father loves the Son and shows him all that he himself is doing; and he will show him greater works than these, so that you will be astonished.
E2 John 12:25 NRSV  Those who love their life lose it, and those who hate their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
E3 1 Corinthians 16:22 NRSV  Let anyone be accursed who has no love for the Lord. Our Lord, come!
D3 ἔρως érōs is sexual, passionate, physical love, even infatuation. This word is not in the Bible.
D4 στέργω stergo which is to cherish. It is used in the negative use 2 times in the New Testament (ἄστοργος
astorgos).
E1 Romans 1:31 NKJV  Undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful. Another translation: Romans 1:31 GW  Don't have any sense, don't keep promises, and don't show love to their own families or mercy to others.
E2 2 Timothy 3:3 NKJV  Unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good. Another translation: 2 Timothy 3:3 GW  And lack normal affection for their families. They will refuse to make peace with anyone. They will be slanderous, lack self-control, be brutal, and have no love for what is good.
B3 1 Corinthians 13,
C1 Why is love greater than any of the spiritual gifts or offices?
C2 Having the gift of languages is a wonderful gift that most would admire. Why is love greater?
C3 Having the gift of prophecy and understanding all mysteries about God is something most would definitely crave. Why is love greater?
C4 Who has the faith to move mountains? Why is love greater?
C5 Surely, giving all a person has to help the poor, would be considered a great act of loving selflessness. Why is love greater?
C6 The dedication and loyalty to God by being burned to death would reap rich rewards. Why is love greater?
D1 Daniel 3:28 GW  Nebuchadnezzar said, Praise the God of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. He sent his angel and saved his servants, who trusted him. They disobeyed the king and risked their lives so that they would not have to honor or worship any god except their own God.
D2 2 Corinthians 12:15 NKJV  And I will very gladly spend and be spent for your souls; though the more abundantly I love you, the less I am loved.
C7 Where does love originate: the body, the soul, or the spirit of a human? Maybe 2 of the 3 or maybe all 3; what do you think?
C8 What does the phrase profits me nothing mean?
C9 How does love make the difference?
C10 Love show itself by
D1 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 NKJV Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth.
D2 Positives:
E1 Why are these positive? What do they indicate?
E2 Suffers long (patient)
E3 Kind
E4 Rejoices in truth (happy with truth)
D3 Negatives:
E1 Why are these negative? What do they indicate?
E2 Not envy (jealous)
E3 Not parade itself (conceited, brag)
E4 Not puffed up (proud, arrogant)
E5 Not rude (ill-mannered, indecent)
E6 Not seek its own (selfish, self seeking, demand its own way)
E7 Not provoked (irritable, easily angered)
E8 Not thinking evil (no record of wrongs)
E9 Not rejoice in iniquity (unhappy with evil, not happy with injustice)
C11 1 Corinthians 13:8 NKJV  Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
D1 Love never fails. The word for fails here is ἐκπίπτω ekpiptō and means fall out, etc. with the idea of being powerless and of flowers that have their withered flower pedals fall off (James 1:11 and 1 Peter 1:24) or shackles falling off the wrists (Acts 12:7).
D2 The word for fail(s) and vanish away for prophecies and knowledge is καταργέω katargeō which means become inoperative, ineffective, done away with, annulled, etc.
D3 So love never falls down, becomes powerless, and it never ends its presence and work.
D4 The other things become inactive.
C12 1 Corinthians 13:9-10 NKJV  For we know in part and we prophesy in part.  10  But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
D1 The word perfect is the Greek word τέλειος teleios which means reached the goal, completed, perfect, etc. The idea is what was to be accomplished has been accomplished.
D2 Interpreters vary on the meaning. Some say it refers to the eternal age when Messiah reigns, some say it refers to when the Scriptures were completed, and some say it refers to when the church is completed (rapture). We do know that the miraculous faded by the time the Apostles were gone (~95 AD).
E1 Why didn’t Paul heal? Philippians 2:25-27 NRSV  Still, I think it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus—my brother and co-worker and fellow soldier, your messenger and minister to my need;  26  for he has been longing for all of you, and has been distressed because you heard that he was ill.  27  He was indeed so ill that he nearly died. But God had mercy on him, and not only on him but on me also, so that I would not have one sorrow after another. And Philippians 2:30 NKJV  Because for the work of Christ he came close to death, not regarding his life, to supply what was lacking in your service toward me.
E2 The in part will become inactive, too, just like prophecy and knowledge.
C13 1 Corinthians 13:11-12 NKJV  When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.  12  For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
D1 How does our thinking change as we mature?
D2 What does face to face mean?
D3 How will it be, and when will we know as we are known?
C14 1 Corinthians 13:13 NKJV  And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
D1 What is temporary? See 1 Corinthians 13:8.
D2 What is permanent?
D3 Why is love the greatest?
D4 What is the difference between faith and love?
E1 Faith is believing God.
E2 Hope is the expectation of fulfillment of what he promised.
E3 I have faith that Jesus will return, and I hope it is today.
D5 How do we grow, become more mature, in faith, hope, and love?
B4 Next week:
C1 Good news of great joy!
C2 The Greatest Gift
C3 Scriptures: Luke 2:1-21