11 September 2020

Why Are People So Angry?


A post by Ray Comfort


Facebook entry 12 February 15


“Ray in your own opinion, why are people so angry?” Matty Branagh


The above question was asked in reference to the thousands of abusive comments on this and other Christian sites (most of which don’t get by our moderators).


The Internet, Hollywood, TV, magazines, etc., have flooded this world with sexual perversion, violence, blasphemy, fornication, homosexuality, adultery, and a godless worldview. As each nation gives itself to what the Bible calls “gross” darkness, the more it hates the light. Or to put it another way, the greater the criminal, the more he despises the rule of law.


As Christians, we stand for the rule of Law among those whom the Bible says are desperately wicked criminals, of which we were once a part. We are the ultimate “wet blanket” for sin loving sinners. Every time we speak the truth, it is like light exposing darkness. We remind them the God requires an account, and such produces what we often call “conviction” (an unpleasant sense of guilt).


Take for example a man who argues with his wife and suddenly realizes that she is right. He is in the wrong. He has two avenues of action. He can either humble himself and apologize, or he can keep his pride by becoming angry, slamming the door and leaving.


So it is when proud sinners begin to see that we are speaking the truth, they have two avenues. They can either humble themselves before the God they have offended, or they can become angry and abuse those who represent Him.





06 September 2020

A Few Thoughts About Lying

What is truth?

B1 Truth is reality. If I hit my thumb with a hammer, it hurts. That is the truth.

B2 Articles:

C1 Truth as a philosophy. You can find much here at Sanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy and search for truth. This is the link.

C2 From a Christian viewpoint, Thomas Aquinas wrote much. See here “Truth by Thomas Aquinas (pdf).

C3 Search at Bethinking concerning truth.

The difficulty in knowing truth

B1 Why is truth difficult to know?

B2 Many different theories and philosophies of what truth is

B3 Many different lifestyles and worldviews because of this difficulty

B4 It seems obvious that there is a curse placed on the world. There is evil, death, sickness, etc.

C1 The logic that creation is most reasonable. See here: Created or evolved?

C2 God pronounced everything good, that is, it met His standard of perfection (Genesis 1:31).

C3 Truth also was perfect, so was love, compassion, gentleness, etc.

C4 All became corrupted when Adam (not Eve) deliberately, premeditatedly disobeyed God (Genesis 3:17-19).

C5 Since all was corrupted, truth was corrupted. Compare 1 Timothy 6:5

C6 Everything became so corrupted that God pronounced judgment (Genesis 6:11-13).

C7 Corruption from God’s standard is often related to what we say (Proverbs 4:24, Proverbs 6:12, Titus 1:15-16).

C8 Life itself becomes a lie instead of truth.

C9 Corruption is our heart, that is, our innermost being that is corrupted. See Matthew 15:18-20.

C10 Some people have no truth. See 1 Timothy 6:5.

C11 A problem with the human heart. It is not even able to do so. Romans 8:7-8 LEB because the mindset of the flesh is enmity toward God, for it is not subjected to the law of God, for it is not able to do so, 8 and those who are in the flesh are not able to please God.

C12 The heart is so corrupted that it is unable to know the truth of how evil it is. Jeremiah 17:9 ESV The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?

B5 To restore truth, Jesus, God the Son, came to earth, born of woman, and ministering to all.

Consider how lies influence us

B1 A child is told their nose is too big or too small (bullying).

B2 Someone is told they are stupid or highly intelligent (manipulation).

B3 Someone is blamed for all the problems in a marriage (domestic abuse).

B4 “Follow me. I have some secret knowledge that I will share with you.” (Seduction)

B5 “I’ll give you power and success.” (a deception to control the person who believes it).

B6 “This is Microsoft tech, and there is something wrong with your computer.” (lying to make money)

B7 Much too often we believe a lie, because we want to believe it.

C1 Flattery

C2 Something too good to be true

C3 To justify something we want to do

B8 30 Reasons Why People Lie

For the Christian truth starts with Jesus Christ.

B1 John 14:6 NLT Jesus told him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me.

B2 He is the highest perfection of truth. There is no lie in him. See Isaiah 53:9, 1 Peter 1:19, 1 Peter 2:22, John 18:38,

B3 He teaches the truth and was never proven wrong by those who he lived with. They disagreed but never disproved.

B4 He teaches the Jews: John 8:44-47 NRSV You are from your father the devil, and you choose to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks according to his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45 But because I tell the truth, you do not believe me. 46 Which of you convicts me of sin? If I tell the truth, why do you not believe me? 47 Whoever is from God hears the words of God. The reason you do not hear them is that you are not from God."

B5 It is most reasonable for everyone to be a Christian. See here.

B6 Decision

C1 There is truth, and there is lie.

C2 How do we know if anything is true or false?

C3 There must be a standard of truth (2 Timothy 3:16-17, 1 Thessalonians 5:21, Matthew 7:24-27).

C4 When we need to know if a statement, thought, deed, etc. is truth, we must compare it to a standard. The standard must be unchanging.

C5 How do we know what standard is truth? It seems it would depend of one’s beliefs, but this makes it subjective.

C6 Standards commonly accepted by people.

D1 The standard of authority. One is considered an authority because of education, research, experience, etc. But, the authority good be wrong, for we see disagreements among experts.

D2 The standard of coherence. Statements as commonly understood must be adhered together to a specified proposition. A coherence theory bases the truth of a belief on the degree to which it coheres ("hangs together") with all the other beliefs in a system of beliefs (typically one person's beliefs, but it could be any body of knowledge). (Source). But, a statement might be interpreted differently, what is seen is different from the facts (illusions, etc.), or not a complete set. One can see this in eye-witness statements.

D3 The standard of consensus. A statement, belief, situation is believed to be truth or false from most people. But, the consensus may be forced by a controlling power, deceived, or a cultural difference, etc.

D4 The standard of consistency. These are of two types.

E1 Mere consistency. A person makes statements that are consistent to each other. But, the person may be a practiced liar or a great salesman, lawyer, politician, preacher, abuser, etc.

E2 Strict consistency. A person makes a statement that results in a consistent second point, then third, etc. This is logic. But, one person’s logical statements may differ from another’s statements.

D5 The standard of correspondence. This is where the statement and the information from the statement correspond. They are the same. But, the words may be interpreted differently as in sarcasm, which may be true.

D6 The standard of custom. An action or statement is true because that’s the way it always has been understood. Theology may be an example. But, the custom may be in error.

D7 The standard of emotion. A statement is true because of a feeling that is trusted to be true. Even an experience could be considered true. But, an experience may be due to habit, training, beliefs, wishes, etc. and not agree with the facts.

D8 The standard of intuition. A statement or action is true, because it was heard or thought about there was a certainty. “My intuition tells me so.” But, it cannot be tested against any facts.

D9 The standard of majority rule. A statement is true because most people, whether experts or not, believe it so. But, again when tested, there it doesn’t match the facts.

D10 The standard of naïve realism. Seeing is believing. But, again, one person may interpret a color, for example, and another sees a distinct color.

D11 The standard of pragmatism. A statement or action is true because it works. But, in a different situation or culture it may not work.

D12 The standard of revelation. Something is true because some spirit declared it true whether the information came in a dream, vision, or something else. But, the revelator may be a liar or imaginary. Again, can it be tested.

D13 The standard of time. This is when something is considered true because it has been considered true for so long as in the statement “the test of time.” But, again further information may show differently.

D14 The standard of tradition. This is when something is true because that is the way we have always done that or believed that. But, when tested shows to not be according to the facts.

C7 Personally, correspondence theory seems most reasonable. When a person reads the Bible, they notice that God takes as truth what a person says, and God does the same when a person talks to Him.

C8 Also, I find it most reasonable that Jesus is this perfect source of truth. When he predicted something, it was true. The prediction was accurate as to who and/or what specifically happened.

D1 A few of Jesus’s predictions.

E1 Jesus predicted his death by the Romans at least 3 times.

E2 He also predicted his resurrection. See Matthew 12:40, Matthew 16:21, Matthew 17:22-23, Matthew 20:17-19.

E3 He also predicted the method of killing him (Matthew 26:21).

E4 He predicted that he would be betrayed (Matthew 26:21-24).

E5 He predicted that his faithful followers would desert him (Matthew 26:30-32).

E6 He predicted his most fanatical follower would deny knowing Jesus (Matthew 26:33-35).

D2 Articles:

E1 Did Jesus Predict His Own Resurrection?

E2 Is prediction (prophecy) a proof of truth? See

F1 The Top 40 Messianic Prophecies

F2 Fulfilled Prophecy a Potent Argument for the Bible

F3 From Reliable to Divine: Fulfilled Prophecy in the Old Testament

C9 Because of the above, I personally accept that the Bible is the only standard of 100% truth. It is the perfect standard. We humans cannot know truth perfectly without it.

C10 The Bible must be interpreted in its plain, normal sense. See Principles of the Literal Bible Interpretation

Application to our life

B1 We must admit reality. If I am an addict, I must admit it. If I am abused, I must admit it. If I am a liar, I must admit it. If I am a sinner, I must admit it. No healing can take place spiritually, emotionally, or physically until we admit the truth.

B2 We must be a little skeptical and not believe everything we hear.

C1 Proverbs 14:15 ESV The simple believes everything, but the prudent gives thought to his steps.

C2 2 Timothy 4:3-4 NLT For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. 4 They will reject the truth and chase after myths.

C3 Hebrews 13:9 NLT So do not be attracted by strange, new ideas. Your strength comes from God's grace, not from rules about food, which don't help those who follow them.

B3 Healing starts with admitting the truth about ourselves. Compare Luke 18:9-14).

B4 Truth must be in our inward life as well as our outward life. Psalms 51:6 LEB Behold, you delight in truth in the inward parts, and in the hidden parts you make me to know wisdom.

B5 We must believe what someone tells us they have been abused, molested, etc. and take appropriate action. All crimes must be reported to law enforcement.

B6 We must live in the truth (Psalm 86:11 (NLT), 2 John 1:3-4, 3 John 1:3-4 (NLT)).

B7 The truth does set us free. (John 8:32, Romans 8:2, 2 Corinthians 3:17)

B8 We must continue to live in the truth. The Holy Spirit helps us by giving grace (Hebrews 4:16, Psalm 43:3) and chastens us when needed (Hebrews 12:6).

B9 We must read, study, memorize, pray for (Psalm 86:11), and live the truth (Psalm 15:2, Ephesians 4:25).

B10 We must teach the truth (2 Corinthians 6:7, 2 Timothy 2:15 (NLT)).

B11 We must stand up for the truth (Jeremiah 9:3 (NLT) and 2 Corinthians 13:8 (NLT)).

B12 Quote from Barclay (be cautious):

Discipleship results in freedom. "The truth will make you free." "In his service is perfect freedom." Discipleship brings us four freedoms. (a) It brings us freedom from fear. The man who is a disciple never again has to walk alone. He walks for ever in the company of Jesus, and in that company fear is gone. (b) It brings freedom from self. Many a man fully recognizes that his greatest handicap is his own self. And he may in despair cry out: "I cannot change myself. I have tried, but it is impossible." But the power and presence of Jesus can re-create a man until he is altogether new. (c) It brings freedom from other people. There are many whose lives are dominated by the fear of what other people may think and say. H. G. Wells once said that the voice of our neighbours sounds louder in our ears than the voice of God. The disciple is the man who has ceased to care what people say, because he thinks only of what God says. (d) It brings freedom from sin. Many a man has come to the stage when he sins, not because he wants to, but because he cannot help it. His sins have so mastered him that, try as he will, he cannot break away from them. Discipleship breaks the chains which bind us to them and enables us to be the persons we know we ought to be.

B13 Live like a Christian. Don’t be ashamed of the Gospel (Romans 1:16-17). Don’t be ashamed of Jesus (Mark 8:38, 2 Timothy 2:12, 1 John 2:22). God help us.

John 17:17 GW Use the truth to make them holy. Your words are truth.

03 September 2020

A Few Thoughts on Psalm 105:15


Don’t touch God’s anointed


These words occur in two passages:

B1 Psalm 105:15 KJV [Saying], Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.

B2 1 Chronicles 16:22 KJV [Saying], Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.


An example:


B1 I’m not criticizing this particular preacher.

B2 It just happens that he does use this passage in his preaching.

B3 The context is not known.

B4 He may be showing an example that is completely opposite of what we hear.

B5 I needed an example of someone preaching this idea.


This Psalm was written partly by David. We do not know who wrote the rest.

1 Chronicles is the setting for the part David wrote.


The setting:

B1 David is the King of Israel.

B2 The Ark of the Covenant (Exodus 25:10-22) was brought into Jerusalem.

B3 The festivities and events that occurred when it was carried by the priests.

B4 For this occasion of rejoicing, David writes this song (1 Chronicles 16:7-36).

B5 Psalm 105 is an expanded version.

B6 Most include Psalm 106 with 105 and 106 forming one unit.

B7 Most feel that the expanded version of Psalm 105 was written by unknown people and sung at the restoration of the Temple after the Babylonian Captivity.

B8 Comments:

This and the following psalm are companions. They reveal the two sides of the relation between God and His people during a long period. This one sings the song of His faithfulness and power; while the next tells the sad story of repeated failure and rebellion on the part of His people. (Source)


The anointed ones in the context refer to the children of Israel:

B1 Psalms 105:5-6 NRSV Remember the wonderful works he has done, his miracles, and the judgments he has uttered, 6 O offspring of his servant Abraham, children of Jacob, his chosen ones.

B2 Psalms 105:12-15 NRSV When they were few in number, of little account, and strangers in it, 13 wandering from nation to nation, from one kingdom to another people, 14 he allowed no one to oppress them; he rebuked kings on their account, 15 saying, "Do not touch my anointed ones; do my prophets no harm.


The anointed prophets refer to Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, etc. They don’t refer to today’s Man of God (MOG) nor modern day so-called prophets or prophetesses.

B1 Psalms 105:9-10 NRSV the covenant that he made with Abraham, his sworn promise to Isaac, 10 which he confirmed to Jacob as a statute, to Israel as an everlasting covenant.

B2 Genesis 20:7 NRSV Now then, return the man's wife; for he is a prophet, and he will pray for you and you shall live. But if you do not restore her, know that you shall surely die, you and all that are yours.


Others anointed in the Old Testament:

B1 High Priest: Exodus 29:5-7 NKJV Then you shall take the garments, put the tunic on Aaron, and the robe of the ephod, the ephod, and the breastplate, and gird him with the intricately woven band of the ephod. 6 You shall put the turban on his head, and put the holy crown on the turban. 7 And you shall take the anointing oil, pour it on his head, and anoint him.

B2 King of Israel: 2 Samuel 23:1 NRSV Now these are the last words of David: The oracle of David, son of Jesse, the oracle of the man whom God exalted, the anointed of the God of Jacob, the favorite of the Strong One of Israel.

B3 Other kings:

C1 Cyrus: Isaiah 45:1 NRSV Thus says the LORD to his anointed, to Cyrus, whose right hand I have grasped to subdue nations before him and strip kings of their robes, to open doors before him—and the gates shall not be closed.

C2 Hazael: 1 Kings 19:15 NKJV Then the LORD said to him: "Go, return on your way to the Wilderness of Damascus; and when you arrive, anoint Hazael as king over Syria.

B4 Satan before he rebelled and sinned: Ezekiel 28:14 ESV You were an anointed guardian cherub. I placed you; you were on the holy mountain of God; in the midst of the stones of fire you walked.

B5 Messiah: Isaiah 61:1 ESV The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me, because the LORD has anointed me to bring good news to the poor; he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound.


Those anointed in the New Testament:

B1 Messiah: Luke 4:18 Daniel Mace New Testament The spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor, he hath sent me to heal the broken hearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovery of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised.

B2 All believers: 2 Corinthians 1:21-22 EMTV Now He who establishes us together with you in Christ and who has anointed us is God, 22 who also has sealed us, and given us the Spirit in our hearts as a pledge.

B3 Believers who are sick: James 5:14 HCSB Is anyone among you sick? He should call for the elders of the church, and they should pray over him after anointing him with olive oil in the name of the Lord.

B4 Also there are those who anointed Jesus and others.


Pastors are not any more anointed than another believer.

All believers have a gift given by the Holy Spirit to minister to the believers. See 1 Corinthians 12:1-11.


We are commanded to

B1 Test apostles: Revelation 2:2 ESV I know your works, your toil and your patient endurance, and how you cannot bear with those who are evil, but have tested those who call themselves apostles and are not, and found them to be false.

B2 Confront erring elders: 1 Timothy 5:19-21 ESV Do not admit a charge against an elder except on the evidence of two or three witnesses. 20 As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that the rest may stand in fear. 21 In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of the elect angels I charge you to keep these rules without prejudging, doing nothing from partiality.

B3 Erring teachers must be confronted and silenced: Titus 1:10-11 ESV For there are many who are insubordinate, empty talkers and deceivers, especially those of the circumcision party. 11 They must be silenced, since they are upsetting whole families by teaching for shameful gain what they ought not to teach.


Nowhere in Scriptures is any type of church leader considered anointed with reference to Psalm 105:15.


Don’t be intimidated by these controlling people.


We are to respect them:

B1 Hebrews 13:17 WEL Be persuadable to those who lead you and yield yourselves, because they watch over your souls as those who must give an answer [and] so that they may do it with joy and not grieving, because that would not be profitable for you.

B2 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13 WEL We plead with you, brothers, to recognize those who are working among you, leading you in the Lord, and warning you. 13 Also to highly respect them in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves.


We do not have to OBEY them.

B1 They are undershepherds. Jesus is Lord.

B2 Elders are brothers and sisters, not masters to obey.

B3 We are to listen closely to their counsel and advice.

B4 They are responsible to God to watch over us and help us not fall into error of doctrine or lifestyle.

B5 Bible verses

C1 2 Corinthians 1:24 NIV Not that we lord it over your faith, but we work with you for your joy, because it is by faith you stand firm.

C2 2 Corinthians 4:5 NLT You see, we don't go around preaching about ourselves. We preach that Jesus Christ is Lord, and we ourselves are your servants for Jesus' sake.

C3 1 Peter 5:3 NLT Don't lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example.

D1 The Greek word for lord it is κατακυριεύω katakyrieúō.

D2 It means to lord it over, gain dominion over, subdue; in some contexts there is an implication that this exercise of authority is harsh. (Source)

D2 Also used in Matthew 20:25, Mark 10:42, and Acts 19:16.

B6 A Pastor's Authority by Ray C. Stedman might be helpful.


Matthew 11:29-30 GNB Take my yoke and put it on you, and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit; and you will find rest. 30 For the yoke I will give you is easy, and the load I will put on you is light.

02 September 2020

A Few Thoughts About Raising Children Part 2



The importance of time

B1 Doing things with children.

C1 There are 2 extremes one to be overprotective and the other to be neglectful.

C2 We need moderation.

B2 Involving children in life’s situations and problems

B3 How to Really Love Your Child

B4 There is a difference between so-called quality time and time.

B5 The importance of time with a child

For example, a new study has been published in the Journal of Family Issues, led by Brown University sociologist Gregory Elliott. This study shows that adolescents who believe they matter to their families are less likely to threaten or engage in violence against family members. The concept of “mattering” is that an individual believes they make a difference in the world around them. According to the study, mattering is composed of three factorsawareness, importance, and reliance. Do others know you exist? Do they invest time and resources in you? Do they look to you as a resource? Elliott asserts that mattering is the fundamental motivation in human beings. (Source)

B6 Some suggestions

C1 If possible, take one child on an errand to the bank, store, etc.

C2 Accompanying you to see you resolve a problem with a business matter.

C3 Let them see when you fail. How you react teaches them how to handle disappointment.

C4 You have a repair project. Do it with your child/children.

C5 You are a role model.


Remember: Links are not necessarily endorsed. Always be cautious.


The importance of keeping promises

B1 All promises are expected to be truth.

B2 Types

C1 Promises to do, etc.

C2 Commitments to a church, club, etc.

C3 Promises to your spouse

B3 Yes and no

C1 Example

D1 “Yes, you can have another piece of pizza.” Don’t lie to them.

D2 “No, you cannot have another piece of pizza.” Don’t lie to them. No amount of whining, yelling, having a meltdown, will sway you. You promised no, so no means no. To give in shows them that they are boss, they can manipulate you, and you are a liar. This is not good.

C2 Psalms 15:1,4 ERV A song of David. LORD, who can live in your Holy Tent? Who can live on your holy mountain?...They hate those who fail to please God and honor those who respect the LORD. If they make a promise to their neighbor, they do what they promised.

B4 Articles:

C1 5 Reasons for Keeping Promises to Your Children

C2 The pain of a broken promise


The importance of consistency

B1 Household rules

C1 All must follow the rules.

C2 Things happen, so allow flexibility, but in general follow the rules.

C3 As children grow older bedtimes, etc. change, so allow them to be mature and responsible.

C4 Consistency in success and failure. Consistency in following the rules or not following the rules.

B2 Parents life and habits

C1 Parents are role models.

C2 Your actions in public and private is probably going to be mirrored by your children.

B3 Articles:

C1 Why Does Consistency Matter in Parenting?

C2 Be Consistent with Your Child

Married Love

The importance of Biblical love between parents

B1 Your spouse is the highest priority except for God.

B2 Your spouse is more important than your child.

B3 Love is a choice, not necessarily passion.

C1 The Greek word for love is ἀγάπη agápē.

C2 According to Greek Lexicon Of The New Testament, Abbott-Smith, this word means

D1 signifying properly love which chooses its object

D2 is fitly used in NT of Christian love to God and man, the spiritual affection which follows the direction of the will, and which, therefore, unlike that feeling which is instinctive and unreasoned

C3 So if your spouse has a difficult day or for whatever reason she is upset with you, you still love her and she you.

C4 This love of choice leads to the next point.

B4 The actions of love are in 1 Corinthians 13.

C1 My translation: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 WEL Love is very patient and kind; love is not envious; love doesn’t brag about itself, is not haughty, 5 Doesn’t behave improperly, is not self-seeking; love isn’t easily aggravated, doesn’t keep a list of wrongs, 6 Doesn’t rejoice in injustice, but rejoices with the truth, 7 Bears all things believes all things, hopes all things, calmly endures all things. 8 Love never falls away...

C2 These are the actions of love.

C3 They are seen in public and private.

C4 It is consistent.

C5 It doesn’t end.

C6 It is in thoughts, desires, words, and deeds.

C7 We cannot do this perfectly. Only God can. But He gives us grace for it is a fruit of the Holy Spirit that all Christians have. See Galatians 5:22-23 and Ephesians 5:9.

B5 Listen, really listen to your spouse. There is no need to start giving advice, just LISTEN. Doesn’t God listen to you?

B6 Seek God’s wisdom first, then your spouse. Husbands need to listen, seek, and follow their wives’ advice before someone else. God gave her to you. No other human knows you better than they do.

Preparing for Marriage

The importance of preparing for marriage

B1 Hormones

C1 Girls

D1 Need to learn about their hormonal changes before it happens. Otherwise on their first bleed, they may be scared that something horrible has happened.

D2 Need to learn to chart their periods.

E1 Teaching your teen to chart her cycle could literally save her life

E2 Periods

D3 And many other things.

D4 How to be aware of narcissists and other manipulators.

E1 Danger Signs Tally Sheet He also sells a more in-depth book.

E2 10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry

E3 How to avoid choosing a charming, deceitful narcissist for a spouse

E4 There are many others search for Red Flags in Dating or whatever

C2 Boys

D1 How to respect women

E1 Teaching our Boys to Respect Women

E2 Start young. Teach them respect by

F1 Respecting women yourself, especially your wife. Speak respectfully as to your greatest friend and partner in life. Be kind, Be compassionate. LISTEN! To her.

F2 Have consequences to disrespecting your wife (their mother). Mom and Dad must agree what that consequence is and MUST be consistent. Start at 2 years old.

E3 Raising Godly Boys Who Respect Women

D2 Lust

E1 Just reacting to seeing a beautiful woman is nothing. It is when you stare, undress her, etc. Don’t pay attention to the stupid 20 second rule.

E2 Some helpful articles: Love, Honor, Vacuum Blog topic lust.

C3 You might consider the courses from Love, Honor, Vacuum

B2 God’s beliefs about sex. They will learn them, so it is better they learn from you. If you are unable or whatever, then the church must teach it. Why should they learn from the world’s ways and standards?

B3 Teach them the warning signs of narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, etc.


The importance of apologetics

B1 Christianity is most reasonable. Know why and teach it.

B2 The importance of truth.

B3 The importance of being a little skeptical.

B4 Know sources of answers to contradictions, philosophies, etc.

B5 There are answers.

C1 Some of the primary areas of questions

D1 Jesus

D2 Bible

D3 Science

D4 Hell

D5 Evil

C2 Some other main questions all parents should know and teach their children.

D1 See 65 Apologetics Questions Every Christian Parent Needs to Learn to Answer. The main site is here.

D2 Parents need to research these questions to answer them reasonably.

B6 Some sites:

C1 The Domain for Truth (he deals with many apparent contradictions)

C2 Be Thinking

C3 Cold Case Christianity

C4 Cerebral Faith

C5 William Lane Craig

C6 An Introduction to Christian Apologetics

C7 And many others


The importance of finance

B1 Give them some money.

B2 Tell them that this is all they get this week.

B3 If they spend it all in one day, so be it. It is now gone.

B4 Do not give in and give them more. Then they will know that when you give in, you’re not trustworthy and a pushover.

B5 What we say needs to be truth. Yes must mean yes and no mean no.

B6 We need to be consistent.

B7 If we give in to their tears, whining, temper tantrum, they will always do that to get what they want, even when they are adults.

B8 Teach them that debt is to be avoided unless absolutely necessary (as when buying a house). If you have debt, you are a slave to the holder of that debt.

B9 Give to the church as God has prospered.

B10 Pay your bills on time.

B11 Have a safety fund. Teach your children to have one, too, even when they are young as 6 or younger.

B12 Don’t cosign.

B13 Articles:

C1 15 Ways to Teach Kids About Money

C2 You might find something here: Ultimate Resources for Teaching Kids About Money

C3 Maybe one of these will be helpful: My 10 Best Financial Literacy Apps for Kids

C4 Show your kids how you earn money, spend money, save money, make wise buying choices, debt, etc. By observing you, they will learn real life.


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The importance of family teamwork

B1 Working together has many benefits as

C1 Cooperation, teaching mature behavior in difficult and happy situations, sharing sorrows and victories together, sense of belonging, learning teamwork, anticipating another person’s actions to help them, sharing, etc.

C2 Quotes:

D1 Problem solving (this means finding new and creative solutions in situations where you’re stuck or can’t work through your issues)

D2 Managing conflict (this means managing and resolving disagreements in a collaborative and positive way)

D3 Talking and listening (this means communicating in ways that help you connect and strengthen your relationship)

D4 Backing each other up (this means parenting in consistent and supportive ways)

D5 Accepting each other (this means living with and valuing each other’s differences)

D6 Source

B2 Bible verses:

C1 Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NET Two people are better than one, because they can reap more benefit from their labor. 10 For if they fall, one will help his companion up, but pity the person who falls down and has no one to help him up. 11 Furthermore, if two lie down together, they can keep each other warm, but how can one person keep warm by himself? 12 Although an assailant may overpower one person, two can withstand him. Moreover, a three-stranded cord is not quickly broken.

C2 Very fitting is Ecclesiastes 4:8 LSV There is one, and there is not a second; even son or brother he has not, and there is no end to all his labor! His eye also is not satisfied with riches, and [he does not say], “For whom am I laboring and bereaving my soul of good?” This also is vanity, it is a sad travail.

C3 Proverbs 27:17 CSB Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens another.

C4 Also see 1 Peter 4:8-10, 1 John 1:7, and Ezra 3:8-9.

B3 Articles:

C1 Developing Family Teamwork

C2 More related to business but shows practical applications: 5 Ways Leaders Must Build a Family Environment to Achieve Excellence


The importance of work

B1 We need to work as best as possible without someone watching

B2 Honorable work

C1 College is not necessary, unless one needs that type of education as medical fields, education, law, engineering, etc.

C2 Skilled trades

C3 Community College (2 year) for many computer related sciences.

B3 Family chores

C1 Don’t pay them for family chores.

C2 They can’t go to bed until the chose is done.

B4 As much as possible work together. In the evening, clean and pick-up the house together. Mom, dad, and children all work together to finish it.

B5 Dads are never to say, “It’s woman’s work.” Do not be a lazy bastard. Work together.

B6 A child should be getting up in the morning on their own by the time they are 8. They need to know how to set an alarm, get up, clean, and dress. Parents are to prepare them to be responsible, mature adults.

B7 Articles:

C1 New Study Finds Teens’ Early Work Experiences Have Long Lasting Career Benefits

C2 How Can Teens Benefit from Working During Their Youth?


The importance of responsibility

B1 Chores being delegated and done without reminding them. This is our goal.

B2 Dad and Mom need to be consistent, too. They need to have and do chores, too.

B3 After showers, everyone picks up their clothes and towels and carries them to the laundry basket.

B4 Let them plan and prepare a whole meal. This should be when they are young say 10 years old or even younger.

B5 Teach them that choices have consequences. Don’t bail them out or you’ll be doing it again and again.

B6 Don’t praise them for doing their routine chores, if so, praise becomes routine. Thank them when they do a hard job done well or doing extra.

B7 Children want to help, especially when they are young.

C1 Take the time to teach them to wash dishes, dry them, and put them away.

C2 Take the time to teach them to clean up after themselves.

C3 Take the time to teach them to do laundry and other household tasks.

C4 What will they do when they are ready to leave home and cannot do any of these things?

C5 Parents are not servants. They must teach the children how to be independent adults.

C6 Accept goof ups when they start. Do not criticize them. Work together. It takes time to learn. When I first started nursing, I made errors. I learned from my errors. Over time (41.5 years worth) I became very experienced. So, it is to learn anything. Have mercy when they start learning these things.

C7 Let them have more independence. At 5-6, they should be able to wash, dry, and put away most of the dishes. At 10 they should be able to make a complete meal. We’re not talking about being a chef but a basic meal. Don’t hover over them when they are cooking but be available for their questions. You don’t like someone doing that to you, so respect them.

Avoid Abuse Teachers

Don’t follow abusive teaching “child experts” like Michael Pearl or Ted Tripp.

B1 I followed Michael Pearl’s teaching and ruined my family. Learn from my stupidity and do not follow his teaching. Burn his books.

B2 All abuse is wrong. Do not abuse your spouse, your parents, your neighbor, your boss, your co-workers, your church leaders, etc.

B3 Articles:

C1 Pearl: Some Michael Pearl Quotes on Child Training and here

C2 Tripp: Shepherding a Child's Heart (a short critique)

C3 The Child as Viper: How Voddie Baucham’s Theology of Children Promotes Abuse


Teach the importance of mercy.

B1 No one is perfect. All of us forget sometimes. All of us slop through a job sometimes. The key is sometimes. It should be rare, like not more than once a month. The older they are the more we should expect. We learn from mistakes and errors. Have mercy on your children. Share together what went wrong and what could have been done.

B2 Teach the importance of asking for forgiveness and showing mercy when another asks for forgives. Practice it yourself.

B3 We show others mercy when something is a mistake, something is misunderstood, something is really forgotten, something was an accident, etc. Mercy is not staying angry or seeking punishment even if the rule was broken, there were circumstances that we show mercy instead of punishment. Mercy should be shown when there is obvious repentance or sorrow for what happened and if necessary, offer amends.

B4 A quote:

God will judge those who refuse to show mercy and hold a grudge against others. Mercy is something I have struggled with on my walk of faith and maybe you have as well. I remember being mad at people because they said things behind my back, but God reminded me that I’ve done the exact same thing. You get mad at your kids for having to teach them something over and over, but God has had to teach you the same things over 1000 times. The same things that we get angry at people for is the same thing that we have done to others, but we are too prideful to see it. Before God we have done even worse things. We have to show mercy just like God has shown mercy on us. (Source).

B5 Matthew 5:7 ESV Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.


The importance of knowing you are not perfect

B1 We all fail, but a failing does not mean we are a failure.

B2 Apologize when wrong. Make amends if needed.

B3 Don’t be a legalist.

C1 This is following the rules so closely that there can be no deviation regardless of the situation.

C2 This is also believing that following somebody’s rules will bring blessings from God.

B4 Show some flexibility from time schedules when necessary. Things happen.

B5 Parents can do child raising near perfect and the child might still turn against what they were taught. You are not a failure. They are making bad choices. A parent is not responsible for their adult children.


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B1 9 Mistakes Parents Make That Lead Their Children to Absolute Failure

B2 Bible Verses for Parents 10 Bible Verses to Encourage Parents


There are special considerations for single parents, blended families, etc. that are not covered here.


Parents have a responsibility to raise their children. As much is humanly possible, we are

B1 To teach them the Scriptures and the Christian faith

B2 To develop them into mature, adults

B3 To be independent in taking care of themselves having basic life skills

B4 To be emotionally stable

B5 To be handle satisfaction, success, and disappointments